I've been going to same stylist for 4 years. The last 2 color appts she has not listened to me, even though I have brought pictures. Today, she dyed my hair this ridiculous violet color even though I told her not to put violet in the color and expressed concern after I saw the color she mixed up. She told me it wouldn't look violet when it was processed, but it does! She says it looks violet only at my roots, which is like the top inch of my hair, so I think it is pretty noticeable/unacceptable. The rest of my hair is much darker than what I asked for and showed her. She wouldn't let me pay her today even though I tried to insist and wants me to come back so she can put a toner on it or something. However, I do not want to go back (which is why I was trying to pay her). I think I will have better luck going to someone else to fix it. Should I "break up" with her and mail her a check? Should I not mail her a check since it is obviously not what I wanted and I now have to pay someone else? Or should I let her try to fix it? She told me there is not a lot she can do to lighten the color to something closer to what I wanted. She said my best bet was to "wash it a bunch of times."