I am totally "for" registries I also think the idea of asking for books instead of cards or having a theme shower is fantastic. The shower is supposed to be about the bride or the mom. It isn't about the guests. If the bride or mom wants diapers, books, kitchen tools or anything else specific then get it for her. The idea of needing to get the gift you want to get her (but she may never use) seems crazy to me. I have SOOO many useless gifts from my boyfriend's mom I would NOT want her planning a shower and telling her friends to bring what they want. Why? Because I don't need more shirts that don't fit or necklaces I'd never wear out of the house. Does that sound mean? Maybe. But why get gifts you don't need or won't use? They just end up taking up space or getting tossed. Seriously I have this one braclet that doesn't even fit properly that I can't throw out because what if she asks about it? Now if she did that would I be nice and polite and tell everyone how happy I was? Yes. Would I ever use the stuff? No. During the holidays my mom always asks what I want. I always tell her I don't need anything (because I don't). I always say that I am fine with not getting gifts because I am. In fact, I have pondered the idea of NOT telling the women I work with when I get engaged because I really do NOT want a shower. That said, if one is going to have a shower at least make sure the stuff the bride/mom gets is actually going to be useful!