First, it was the gift registry...which I would never, ever be able to create for myself. But, we've discussed that before and I know many to most people appreciate them. But now I've been told for an upcoming baby shower by the mother herself to not get her a card with the gift, but instead to buy a children's book and write a message to her and her baby on the inside cover. These instructions were also written on the invitations. Never mind the fact that I've already handcrafted a card, which I'll of course still give, but really, why don't you just tell me what to write in the book as well? I think it's a sweet idea, I really do, but I wish people could just give from the heart and not have to have everything so orchestrated.