My friend from college is getting married. This is going to a very small wedding held at a restaurant. There are no bridesmaids either (just to give you an idea how small it is). I was shocked I was even invited. The wedding is not until Dec., but a bunch of her friends/sister and I are doing a spa day followed by a "shower" held at a restaurant where we each pay for our own food, but it's in a private room. I'm also unemployed. It was suggested that we each give $ to help pay a hotel room the night of the wedding or for the honeymoon. I doubt the bride-to-be suggested this because the shower is a surprise and she's trying to keep everything VERY simple. I was never big on giving money as a gift to begin with. Since I'm not working, I'd prefer not to give $ esp. since we are paying for services at the spa (I'm getting shellac manicure as a big treat to myself) and since we are all splitting the cost of her spa service which is $180 (almost $19 each). I would rather get her something for the shower, but for the wedding I'm going to get her a Lenox picture frame. Here's ani dea I had. http://www.jessicaswedding.com/Pink-Pastel-Tote-Bags-Personalized-Free/productinfo/PD320-PNK/ If I get her the bag, I was thinking of personalizing it with her new last name. She's also a teacher so I know she'd get use out of the bag. I'm thinking you might all say chip in and just give $, but I like to be thoughtful. What do you all think?