I am not posting this to open a political can of worms but cannot verbalize my frustrations anywhere that people "know" me without betraying my cousin. Due to his occupation, he cannot truly come out as a gay male and even most of our family does not know. He and his partner (of 28 years) were married last weekend. They have been together for just about a year less than my husband and I have been together and still cannot announce their relationship in a truly public manner. Not that I nor them are naive enough to think that everyone does not know-they have been living together for 25 years. My cousin has been my best friend for my entire life and I adore him and his husband and see no difference in their relationship and my own heterogeneous relationship. Those of you who "know Me" (via Facebook" are aware that I am a very conservative Catholic but even I can accept the fact that we do not choose to fall in love with the opposite sex or someone of the same sex but we fall in love with the person who is best for us. He once told me that I am one of the few people that sends them one invitation to events addressed to both of them. Most people send to invitations and it hurts their feelings. Since I cannot say it on Facebook, I am saying it here (even though they will not see it). Congrats to my cousin and his new husband--I hope you have many more happy years together and that one day you can marry in a very public ceremony and I can be by your side.