Family vs job

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  1. The Fonz

    The Fonz Math teacher (for now...)

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    Hello all. I have a question and I'm curious on everyone's thoughts.

    My wife and I are currently expecting our second child, she does not work and I am in a private school making not enough to make ends meet.

    I am interviewing for a teaching job tomorrow in a very high paying district which would solve our financial issues and more.

    If I get the job, would it be in poor taste to leave mid year for a much higher paying job? People tell me family comes first, but I can't help but feel guilty

    thought??
     
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  3. agdamity

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    Ultimately, you do what you have to do. Have you checked your contract to see what happens if you break it? It wouldn't be unheard of to leave mid year.
     
  4. ktmiller222

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    I'm sure you don't have a contract at your private school so you shouldn't have any current work problems if you get hired. Honestly, you have to do what you have to do. If I were in your shoes and I did indeed get that higher paying job, I would accept it right away because I wouldn't have all of that financial stress anymore. I honestly hope you get this new job. It's only natural to feel guilty but think about your personal life and needs! Good luck and congrats on the new baby! =)
     
  5. SandyCastles

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    I had this happen to me this year. I interviewed, not expecting to get the much higher paying job. When the offer came in, I knew what I had to do. I just had my last day at the first school and will begin at my new one after Thanksgiving. Best wishes tomorrow- you will know what to do when the time comes.
     
  6. The Fonz

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    Thanks all for the advice.

    Most people are telling me that family comes first, but these people are not teachers. So it is nice to hear other teachers agree with the sentiment.

    I am currently in an M.Ed program for administration, so I don't know how that is going to fare on the interview...I feel like it would be a turn off.
     
  7. The Fonz

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    Just an update.

    I had the interview today and I think I did really well and answered the questions well. My problem is that the teacher is returning next school year. So even though I am getting a full time pay and benefits, there may be a chance that I won't have a position next year. The AP said if everything works well that I may be able to be retained, but I don't know if I can take that chance.


    Oh well, back to pinching pennies and being late on all my bills!
     
  8. MikeTeachesMath

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    I think I would still take it. If you don't get renewed, you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
     
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    I would accept it anyway. Esp, if it's a public school. People will retire. If you do a good job, they'll do what it takes to keep you!
     
  10. The Fonz

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    It just makes me really nervous with a family and one more on the way. It would be a nerve wracking half year
     
  11. dgpiaffeteach

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    How big is the district? How likely is it that someone will retire or move? In my district, it wouldn't be likely at all because our departments only have 3-4 teachers.
     
  12. The Fonz

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    The district has 1 high school with about 35 - 40 math teachers in the department. If no one retires this year, there is not another option in the district other than middle school
     
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    What's the size of the district?
    I had to make a choice at the beginning of the year between continuing subbing in the city I was in (with at least one brief long-term sub job lined up) and continue applying in the nearby areas, or to take a position that I got offered about 2-3 hours south. It was a tough decision, given that it would require my wife and I to live apart for a while, and that it would, in the end, require us to uproot ourselves to a different city on a non-continuing contract. What helped with the decision of uprooting ourselves was the fact that this was such a big district, that so long as I do a strong job this year, I would likely find at least a position somewhere in the district, if not at this school. That led to her getting herself transferred with her job closer, and here we are today. By no means relaxing...and looking back at that decision to leave is still tough, but sometimes you just have to take that leap.

    edit: I see that my question was answered as I was writing this to post ... sorry! :lol:
     
  14. agdamity

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    35-40 math teachers? That's a huge high school!
     
  15. otterpop

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    That's what I was thinking!
     
  16. The Fonz

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    Yea but still, is the risk worth the reward? I have a pregnant wife and 16 month old son.
     
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    Is the job officially a long-term sub job? Is it categorized as temporary? If either of those, I would be hesitant to switch.
     
  18. dgpiaffeteach

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    I would take it.
     

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