Enemies before I've even started??

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  1. stampin'teacher

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    Today was the first inservice day, filled with meetings the first half of the day, and work in our classrooms the second half. I am the new fourth grade teacher, so I was anxious to meet the entire faculty for the first time.

    Anyway, here's the backstory: the previous 4th grade teacher is now the Drama teacher, and I didn't know much about what happened, except that the switch wasn't really up to her. She has been there for 20 years, and up until me, was the ONLY 4th grade teacher the school has had. (Later that day I found out that it was a pretty bad year, and she was extremely resentful)

    So today, I introduce myself to everyone I haven't met yet, and everyone is really lovely and inviting. THIS teacher, however, acts like I didn't even say "hello, how are you?" when I was a foot in front of her, and was even scowling at me during the meetings!!! Now I knew I should tip toe and not just go up to her and say "hi, nice to meet you, I took your job", but I figured she would be civilized! :eek:hmy:

    I know there's nothing I can really do, and I know it's not ME she hates, but what I represent. Still, it makes me feel quite uncomfortable, and I'm not quite sure how to make sure I keep this professional? I still need to work with her, and I don't want her to just walk all over me, but I know I need to be sensitive because she's still a person and obviously is going through her own set of emotions.

    Sorry, I just had to vent!
     
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  3. mopar

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    Think about how often you will truly need to work with the drama teacher. You might find that it isn't as often as you think.

    Don't let her negativity get you down and if she is a professional, she'll move on in time.
     
  4. Cerek

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    You have the right attitude about the situation. It isn't your fault she was moved last year and her old position opened up. It's also very compassionate for you to understand it isn't YOU she hates, but what you represent. Still, it sounds like the admin had their reasons for moving her and that is something she will have to learn to deal with. It isn't your problem or your concern.

    Your best approach is to remain professional any time you deal with her and simply ignore any barbs, comments or stares she throws your way. Be tall, not small. If you take the high road, any thing she does to cause extra drama will just reflect even more poorly on her.
     
  5. BioAngel

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    I took over for a teacher who was not qualified to teach my particular subject, but she continued on as a 4th grade writing/reading teacher. She's also well loved by the parents and students and has been there for awhile.

    She's been fine with me, thankfully, but her buddy across the hallway can't stand me. She has gotten a bit better as my first year went along, but still the looks, the icy tone of what she does say to me, and the fact that she ignores me most of the time really puts a damper on my spirit.

    At this point, I'm still very nice to her and will help her out whenever I can. Besides that, she can have a silent hissyfit about me working at the school all she wants. I really thought this nastiness would be something only the students were doing so I was shocked when I started teaching and apparently some adults haven't grown out of it.

    Remain professional, continue to be nice to her, if you can help her out with something do so, but otherwise ignore her bad vibes and go be the wonderful teacher you are!

    While this one teacher might not like me, that hasn't affected how other teachers have treated me. And I'm sure it will be the same way in your situation too :)
     
  6. Mellz Bellz

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    Kill her with kindness. Don't go overboard, but when appropriate act friendly towards her. Even if she doesn't reciprocate , shrug it off, and dion't let it bother you. Once she sees that she is not ruffling your feathers hopefully she'll drop it.
     
  7. WindyCityGal606

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    It's unfortunate that you have to deal with her attitude but it's IS fortunate that you have the position that was made available by moving her to a different position. I wouldn't bend over backwards to be accommodating to her displeasure because she may just choose to allow this attitude to linger. Some people just need a scapegoat to deal with their own shortcomings. Be professional and do the best job you can do for your school and your students. Don't spend too much of your energy worrying about how she's feeling. She obviously doesn't give a hoot how she's making you feel. WHATEVER!:rolleyes:
     
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    Just be civil and polite...how much interaction will you really have with her? It also seems like you'd never or almost never really NEED to work with the drama teacher on something.
     
  9. soleil00

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    I have "friendly enemies" with my first grade teammates... they don't like that I am friends with the kindergarten teachers as well as them.

    For some reason there is a rift between K and 1st and if you mingle inter-grade you are automatically considered a traitor or something to the 1st grade teachers!
     
  10. stampin'teacher

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    I will work with her somewhat-our school is a progressive independent school, so we meet with specialists to discuss how they will incorporate our theme into their classroom. I guess other than that, I won't work with her that much.

    Today she barged into my room while I was discussing things with office personnel and said she wanted her desk and file cabinet back. Luckily the office worker did all the talking, and said "umm....no, it's actually the classroom's, and this teacher (me) has already placed her work in the files as she was asked to"

    The worst part is...then she asks where her files went. At the beginning of the summer, I noticed her file cabinet was still quite full-Admin notified me that the previous teacher stated everything she wanted was cleared out, and anything else in there was up for grabs (I must've asked this 2/3 times to be sure). So I cleared out what I didn't need (I even asked if I should box it up, and they said no) and now she suddenly wants them!!! Great...wonder who she's going to blame for that!!!

    Luckily I told admin immediately (to cover my behind) and they said they would take care of everything, and not even mention my name to her.

    I'm slowly realizing she's a bit...eccentric. I think this is a really hard transition for her, and you can SEE that she is taking it out on people- not just me. I guess that makes me feel a little better...:unsure:
     
  11. stephenpe

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    At least she now has the "proper" title. :whistle:
     
  12. Cerek

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    I was thinking the same thing when I read the OP. :rofl:
     
  13. Irishdave

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    Gosh I just got on too late I was ready to do the
    "Drama Queen Teacher" Line

    but stephenpe and Cerek beat me to it

    and I think you should just go up to her and say "since I am new here I might need someone to show me the ropes" then if she is a Drama Queen use the rope to tie her posterior up!

    [​IMG]
     
  14. stampin'teacher

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    ha! She REALLY is the "drama" teacher for sure...
     
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    I would treat her as if I knew nothing about the situation. Act to her just like you do to the rest of the teachers. She probably feels resentful of you now but I think it will wear off.
     
  16. Irishdave

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    Maybe you could look her in the eye and tell her
    "Look I am just the new teacher here
    I had nothing to do with what happened last year whatever it was,
    so if you need to put someone down to make yourself feel better, I am not your whipping girl,
    so will we be friends or something worse, you choose,
    have a nice day" and walk away ............


    Well maybe not but isn't fun to think you could
     
  17. BioAngel

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    Well thankfully now everybody is aware of how completely unprofessional she is and I'm sure if she keeps this up she'll go from the Drama Teacher to the No Job Teacher.
     
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    Ha! That would be hysterical! In my head it's what I'm thinking, outward I just keep smiling respectfully every time she looks at me ;)
     

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