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  1. Irishdave

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    As some of you may remember my daughter in law had a miscarriage about 2 years ago, well, she had another this month. This time only my son's mom, her parents and I knew she was PGed. The baby would be her first (son has an EX :( where my Granddaughter "came from").
    Have any of you had miscarriages (or your wife, guys) and were able to conceive and take a child to term?
    This weighs heavy on my heart my Bio mom had 2 miscarriages before and then died in my birth (I have gone to counseling to handle my childhood feelings on it) I just hope my son and daughter in law can have the joy of another child and it does not affect their marriage.
     
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    I didn't personally, but my grandmother had many miscarriages. She had my aunt, then three miscarriages. Finally, she had a baby, who lived for three days. Then she had my father. After him, another miscarriage, and then my uncle. All three children are still living as well as my grandmother.

    It is possible to conceive after a miscarriage. However, I would highly suggest working with a doctor when trying to conceive. It could be something medical that keeps the pregnancy from going full-term.
     
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    How far along was she? She probably should be seen by an RE.
     
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    My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage; my son was born just over a year after my first due date. One of my dear friends at school just gave birth to her second beautiful daughter; between the two girls were 4 miscarriages (that I know of). I agree that she should seek a referral to a specialist.
     
  6. Irishdave

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    RE?
     
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    Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE)

    I Googled it :)



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    Dave, I'm sorry and hope they know that God has a plan for them and their future, that is extremely tough news to have that happen again and hope they stay strong.
     
  8. MsMar

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    I'm so very sorry to hear this. I do not have any personal experience with miscarriages either myself or family members so I can't offer any personal advice. I just wanted to send you some virtual hugs.
     
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    I had one shortly before I became pregnant with my daughter, who is now 23. I had two more a few years later, and then we decided that one was just fine. Counseling is helpful, though. Best wishes to your family.
     
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    My family has suffered through miscarriages, but all of them have gone on to have children after miscarriages. A family friend had a miscarriage and a few years later had a beautiful healthy baby girl. My friend had two or three miscarriages and was getting ready to give up, but now has a beautiful baby. There is hope! Hugs!
     
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    I miscarried my first child...then lost my son's twin.
     
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    My mother tried for 8 years and had 6 miscarriages before she had me (my older sister is adopted).

    I miscarried twice before I got pregnant with my oldest son and all three of my pregnancies were very high risk. I never did carry to term, but I have three wonderful boys.

    It really does suck to be going through things like that. Your son and daughter in law will be in my prayers.
     
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    Ah,Dave, I'm so sorry.

    I had a miscarriage a few years before we adopted Brian,then gave birth to both girls.

    Something like 1/3 of all pregnancies end in miscarriages.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I pray God comforts and encourages your son and daughter in law.

    Yes, I am familiar with several people who had multiple miscarriages and then were successful in carrying a healthy baby to term.

    I agree they may need to consult a specialist to give clarity and guidance to have the best chance to find success. I'll be in prayer for them.
     
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    My sympathies to them and you, Dave.
     
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    My mom had several miscarriages. She had my brother, had a series of miscarriages, and then had me. She and my dad immediately started trying again after I was born because they figured it would take a few tries for a baby to come to term--just over a year later, my younger brother was born. Lots of blessings!

    I know of more women than I can count who had miscarriages (sometimes multiple miscarriages) and then got pregnant and had healthy babies. Two of my friends gave birth over the last two months after suffering multiple miscarriages (one of these women had been told by her doctor that she would NEVER have children, but she now has a beautiful baby girl). There is plenty of hope for your son and daughter-in-law! I'll be praying for them.
     
  17. Irishdave

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    Thank you all, I feel now that I could have another grandchild on the horizon
     
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    I was just on the phone with a friend...actually, my the woman who lived below me in my old apartment. We were joking around about how impossible it is to have a conversation with my three boys and her 4 year old twin boys in the background. None of the 5 boys should really be here. I told you about my issues earlier. My friend and her husband lost 14 pregnancies prior to getting pregnant with the twins. My friend could get pregnant easily, but between 9 and 16 weeks, all sorts of trouble happened. She was able to carry the twins until 27 weeks and even though it was touch and go in the NICU for a while, they're both happy, healthy boys.
     
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    I have no experience w/ this since I've never even been pregnant, but I'm sorry.
     
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    I am very sorry for your losses. It is something that affects the whole family. I have known many young women who have had multiple miscarriages and went on to have healthy children (including one who now has 6 kids). I agree about the advise on a reproductive endocrinologist. I do know one woman who has had 3 miscarriages because her body identifies the fetus as a foreign, threatening object and sends out hormones to get "rid" of it. You are a wonderful father-in-law to be so caring and supportive.
     

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