Obviously none of us are doctors. Clearly we cannot "diagnose" children. I have tried every roundabout way of informing a parent that her child has some sort of disability (without using that word). Mom freaks out with her low test scores and will email me in a panic once every 2-3 weeks. I've sat down with mom on SEVERAL occasions. She mentioned that she was going to get her tested (?) but is not following through, despite me checking up on her. I'm in a private school so we do not test. My school is unfamiliar with diagnoses of any kind. Having come from public, I've seen a lot of kids with learning disabilities. Mom keeps freaking out on ME like it's my fault. I tutor the child twice a week and work with her in small group in Reading and Math, differentiated. Here is a checklist of information about the child, of which I've mentioned to mom. -she is inconsistent with how she grasps concepts. One day she has it, the next day it's completely gone. -when she speaks she talks in circles and never gets to her point. -she lacks vocabulary. she often refers to "things" "whatchamacallit" -she goes way off topic when talking or answering a question. -her independent functioning level at anything is poor. She needs a lot of assistance from teacher and redirection to do her work. -She has difficulty following oral directions. -Her work and handwriting are messy. when i brought the previous 2 up to mom she acted like she has never noticed this at home. I don't get how she couldn't. Mom says she does all homework by herself with little to no help. I seriously do not understand how that is possible. Please help. My admin isn't much help. I'm considered to be the "senior" person in this area at school since I have prior experience, though I'm not expert. From what I just know about other ESE kids I've had (who had IEP's and were pulled out), it seems to be along the lines of dyslexia? Or some other language-based learning problem. May I get a more seasoned person to chime in? How do I get mom to understand, or at least to calm down and listen to me? What else can I do?