Don't know what to do...

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  1. scienceteach82

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    My car is slipping when it hits 4th gear...

    Turns out I might need a new transmission. My car has 70k miles on it...

    I can't afford a new transmission.

    I have no job. I can't afford day care if I were to get a job. I can't seem to land an interview anywhere. Those I do get...I don't get job...

    No, jerk won't help.
    No, parents can't help.

    So...I'll have no car...so couldn't get to job anyway.

    I really hate everything (except babies) right now...
     
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  3. TeacherShelly

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    I'm so sorry to read all this. I wish I could help. You are no doubt sleep deprived and facing a lot of genuine problems. You may be low on iron or something that is needed for you to be well. Problem solving is not something you can do when you're depleted. I'm sitting here wishing I could help you...

    Kiss the babies.
     
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    Are you getting help from gov.?
     
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    I could be low on transmission fluid. Has it been hot where you are? Does it happen when the car has been running a while?

    The eternal optimist in me says it could just be in need of servicing/adjustment.
     
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    Very hot...has been doing this for a while though. Don't remember when it started. It happens anytime...
    I wish it was just fluid...but I doubt it..

    Babies crying...I'm crying...and just got spitup on. Great day
     
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    st, hugs in abundance to you (and to the babies, who truly are adorable).

    It really sounds like you need to be looking somewhere else.
     
  9. Sarge

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    Transmissions are one of the more durable parts of a car. In most cases, they outlast the engine. I had a VW bug that went through two engines and several clutches, but never had a problem with the transmission.

    With automatics, slipping is caused either by low fluid or fluid needing to be replaced. This problem is first noticed when driving the car under very hot conditions. I had a 10 year old Nissan that started slipping one day when I drove it on the freeway in 100+ degrees. The next morning, I drove it and it was fine.

    Also, in transmissions there's a belt that needs to be adjusted periodically. I'm pretty sure that it can cause slipping if it goes out of adjustment.

    I know you're probably afraid that if you take it to a mechanic they'll try to gouge you and say you need a new transmission or if it's a dealer, try to sell you a new car. Sure, they make a lot of money by selling you a new transmission or a new car, but if you can't afford it and drive away (and to your advantage, the car is drivable) then they make zero and the guy who writes up the service orders gets in big trouble. So they have little to lose and much to gain by telling you the truth.
     
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    OK, deep breaths.

    First take care of the babies. You won't be able to think with them crying.

    Then take care of yourself-- grab a cup of tea or coffee or some lemonade--whatever does it for you. Change your shirt, even though more spitup is inevitable; you'll feel better.

    I think TG is right, but you already know my feelings on the subject. Let's assume you're determined to stay where you are.

    Now... has a mechanic looked at the car? Do you KNOW the transmission is shot?

    Let's say you do. And that you've decided the car isn't worth the money to replace.

    How's public transportation near you? An option to consider??

    With two babies, you're not going to take a job that you have to drive too far to. And you're going to need a car for all the diaper/formula/other stuff runs. But it doens't have to be a new one. Put the word out to the people you know: you need a reliable used car. It doesn't have to be beautiful or new, but you're carrying your 2 babies in it-- it needs to be reliable. When you find one, have a mechanic check it out. It's worth the price of the checkup to avoid buying a lemon.

    On the work front: have you been actively looking for a job? (Not an accusation, a serious question. I don't recall you mentioning it since the kiddies arrived.)

    If not, how about doing some serious tutoring? Get the word out to every middle and high school in the county. Let the guidance counselors know your qualifications, and that you're available to tutor anyone who needs it. If you think it will help, mention any GA standardized science tests.
     
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    Most shops also have a set price for a "Automatic transmission inspection and servicing" and that could very well be all that you need.
     
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    I'm taking it to dealership Monday. I'm friends with one of the main mechanics and messages him about the issue. He said if it does need to be replaced...they maybe could help me out. Not sure what that means...but I pray they can.

    Yes, I've been looking for jobs for over a year now. Walmart and Target included. Schools are out of the picture now. Too many certified teachers trying to get same job.
    My brothers gf always on look for jobs for me...but only so much she can do.
    I hate that this is so hard!
    My car is in good condition aside from slipping issue. It is my first car...I got it by myself.
     
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    Thanks for the responses. I'm just feeling really low today.
     
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    Many virtual hugs and prayers coming your way. I got a little heartache reading your post. You just sound so defeated, which I'm sure is how you feel. My sister has twins, and I know how hard it was for her, even with having a husband and a stable income. Do you belong to a multiples support group or church?
     
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    Multiples club. Not too involved with church....but that will change since I'm getting babies baptized in October.
     
  16. Major

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    ST, I agree with Sarge.... Your transmission can slip if the trans fluid is low.... This is an easy thing to check...:):)
     
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    Change it now-- today.

    Call and see if they have any sort of a playgroup or anything. Sure, the kids can play as they get older. But, far more important,you'll develop a network of other moms in the same position as you. It's vital for your sanity during those early days as a mom!!!!!
     
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    They have a moms group. I'm going to check it out next week.

    Hard to stay sad when 2 smiling babies are looking at you and squeal.
     
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    Glad to hear they're sending you smiles.

    I'm sending hugs and prayers, and (as usual) I agree with Alice's advice. Get involved with church--that might open up more avenues for support if you need them.
     
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    thanks :)
     
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    More hugs.
     
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    I'm sorry you're going through this, st.
     
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    praying for you ... sorry about everything, hope things get better soon
     
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    Hoping things look up soon.
     
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    More virtual hugs. We'll talk later.
     
  26. Irishdave

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    AAMACO will check your transmission for free
    Here are two in the Atlanta area
    Atlanta, GA
    806 Northside Dr
    Phone: (404) 873-1166 5.4

    Atlanta, GA
    4270 Buford Hwy
    Phone: (404) 321-5202
     
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    Thank you for the numbers
     
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    sending prayers your way . . . and praying Sarge is right about your trans.
     
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    Since I don't know Atlanta Here are 3 others
    Marietta, GA
    1702 Cobb Pkwy
    Phone: (770) 952-6400 6.9

    Decatur, GA
    2968-e North Decatur Rd
    Phone: (404) 299-7810 8.3

    Marietta, GA
    2730 Austell Road, Suite 180
    Phone: (770) 319-0011
     
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    As a single mom who receives no child support or financial help from family, I know how scary it is. I worked full-time while going to college. I couldn't pay full price for daycare, so I went to the workforce commission. In Texas, they have a program that goes by your income. My fee was very affordable and without that, I wouldn't have made it through college. Check to see if they have a program like that in your state. You are lucky that your babies aren't old enough to walk in and see you in tears (like mine did). PM me if you would like. I've certainly been there, done that. Stay strong for your babies.
     
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    You should be able to find a lot of support at least emotionally and maybe some finacial help through a church. I know there's a group of men at my church who have put a roof on an elderly member's house, they help many others with miscelleanous tasks too.

    I think there's day care facilities who take some type of supplement from moms who are working and aren't making a lot of money. I would suggest looking into your local Department of Human Services.

    Are you living with your family or independent of them? Are they helping you with the babies?

    Big hugs, kiss the babies.
     
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    Thanks, funshine. I'll look into that. I forgot that I might qualify.

    Hoot- My family can't do much more than I'm getting now...except a whole lot more emotional support. My dad recently got a job in Colorado, and mom works full-time. She works for school system so has summers/weekends/holidays off...but she has been in Colorado most of the summer visiting my dad. I've really been on my own with the babies everyday for past 16 weeks. I get help every now and then from my brother and his gf when they watch them so I can go get groceries (he lives with my mom still)...but that's pretty much it. When my mom is here she does help in the same way.
    My other brother is in a doctorate program for physical therapy...so he is incredibly busy trying to maintain grades and such. The last brother is in Louisiana with his fiance.
    No one has money to loan me until I can pay them back...everyone is facing hard times. They would help if they could...no doubt. Just can't...

    Babies are currently on Medicaid...and I really hate that...because I'm on WIC, and get treated really poorly at grocery stores. I had 2 babies crying...trying to buy tuna, milk, and eggs. The stupid cashier told me I couldn't buy tuna bc the voucher said "fish"...wtf?! I told her I would gladly take some fresh "fish" over the tuna. Finally manager came and told her to just scan the can...and by some apparent act of God...it worked....like I had told her it would 5 times when she tried to aruge with me. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Anyway...

    Thanks for all the suggestions. I appreciate all the help. Love this group!
     
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    $2800 to replace it....
    Fluid was fine :(

    The guy told me when the manager got back Wednesday he would see if they could work something out with Mazda. My warranty just expired :(
     
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    ST, I would think your BF (the father of your babies) would pay for the repairs.... Have you asked him?

    Anyway..... many :hugs::hugs: to you....... Take care of yourself..
     
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    Lol...yeah...he said I drive too much and it's my fault...

    Hopefully my grandparents can loan me money , and I can slowly pay them back.
     
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    That's the biggest piece of BS I've ever heard. Tell him I said so. Tell him he's a douchbag if he doesn't help you. Tell him I said that too.

    Transmissions should last the life of the car. And a car should last at least 100,000-200,000 miles.
     
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    It shifts hard from 3rd to 4th gear when I accelerate fast. I saw Someone had the same problem as me...same year and model. Had to replace it :-/

    Yeah...he really can be a jerk..
     
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    ST, please add my name along side Sarge's.....

    This is the father of your babies..... Time for him to step up to the plate... and accept full responsibility....:hugs:
     
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    Don't hold back Sarge tell us how you really feel.......

    add my name along side Sarge's and Major's :mad:
    Tell him to grow some and step up & be a man :mad:
     
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    The mechanics are the experts but this was happening in my Jeep and I had some sensors replaced and it is fine now. Maybe someone on here who knows about cars can add what kind of sensors that might have been - beats me.
     
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    You may want to check here to see if Your car has a recall on it
    Mazda Recall
     

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