Does anyone else feel nervous around certain people?

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  1. TennisPlayer

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    I'm new at my school (as of the end of August!). It's also my first year in my own classroom and my first full time job.

    Since I don't know people that well (and I know that's the way it is when you're new!!) I've been feeling a little out of place at lunch time. Lately I'm feeling a little nervous and it's been hard to eat!! I think one reason is that people seem to be in conversations with people they know. Sometimes I'll start a conversation just so I can talk to an adult and get a mental break from my students.

    Any tips for overcoming feeling nervous? sometimes it feels nice to eat in my classroom so I can unwind from the busyness but I want to socialize, just without the nervousness! :lol:
     
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  3. TampaTeacher

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    Maybe you could do what my team does - there are four of us, and those of us who have coinciding lunches and/or specials just eat together in our classrooms.
     
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    I know what you mean about teachers already having their cliques...just like back in school. I remember telling myself that when I ever got my permanent teaching job, I'm going to get in there & sit in the lunchroom & talk to people. Well, I got hired as a resource specialist one year, which is an isolating type position because usually there's only one resource specialist on the campus. That entire school yr, I probably ate in the lounge a total of 3-4 times. So for me, it's easier said than done.

    But like TampaTeacher said, I know many teachers who eat in a small group in a certain person's classroom. But w/ you being the new person, they're so used to doing what they always do at lunch that I'm sure it will be tough to all of a sudden ask a few to eat w/ you in your rm. Maybe try to see if you can eat w/ a teacher in their rm & after a while, ask the grp if they want to eat in your rm next time.
     
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    You can also start a Friday off campus lunch time with some of your close colleagues,which may be on your grade level team. It's good to get out once in a while. I don't hang out in the staff lounge. I like to get away even if it means getting out by myself! I don't have to worry about what I am saying. But I am lucky to have a grade level team that feels the same way I do! Sometimes there are people you click with and others you don't. My lunch time is valuable while I enjoy getting to know others If someone doesn't make me feel at ease then I will be cordial but I may feel too uncomfortable to hang out. Be friendly but don't feel that you always have to hang out .
     
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    Well the interesting thing is that we are a very small staff so there aren't a lot of teachers to begin with. Some eat before the official lunch time since they have recess before so sometimes I don't see that many "different" people by the time I get to sit down and eat. I don't know if that made any sense or not. I just don't see that many people I can relate to since I'm the younger teacher and new there.
     

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