Do your students ever hurt your feelings?

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  1. LittleShakespeare

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    Perhaps we should end the thread here. Thanks for all your feedback, everybody.
     
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    Kudos to you for working with the little ones. :heart:
     
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    I mean... at least he asked if he could body slam you instead of just doing it?
     
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    If a 3rd grader could body slam me, I'd offer the lad extra credit, or at least a free cake.
     
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    Here are my suggestions and rules:
    1. you cannot let a teenager get you upset or sad. You can't let them alter your emotional state, you don't wanna go home and think about the horrible things they sad and did and be sad. Trust me, they don't go home and think about what they sad to you.
    2. I don't bring in snacks. Ever. Exactly for this reason for every 2 appreciative kid there will be one who won't appreciate or won't know how to express gratitude and will say something real mean.
    3. we have a teacher who goes above and beyond by doing nice things for the kids. I was thinking "I should do things like her" but I won't. You know why? Because the kids will still be mean to her, or say disrespectful things, etc. They might feel appreciative in the moment, but it won't alter their attitude towards her.
    4. My ids don't like me any less because I don't bring in snacks for them. Sometime they mention what other teachers do and why don't I do it, and I smile and say "sorry" and then we move in with the curriculum.

    Don't take it so personally. Stop bringing them anything and just teach. That's all you need to do and I'm not being selfish about this.
    But if you do decide to bring them snacks and they say something mean, you can take that chance and educate them about manners, and gratitude. Just say " you know you should maybe just appreciate what I have brought you. I don't have to do this, but I spent my own money to try to do something nice for you. Maybe you could say thank you. Or just don't say anything, including anything ungrateful"
     
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    Where I taught, teachers would probably wonder if that candy from students was ever tainted with poison!
     
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    All good advice! However, the greater emotional challenge for me was learning to cope with mean-spirited, incompetent administrators.
     
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    A little off topic....but it made me think of this thread....
    One of my students was given a lollipop as a reward in specials. (Yes, I hate this, but it is not my class and it is my colleague's choice.) However, I know he had to be very good to earn it.
    At recess, he brought it to me and said, "I want to give you something, Mrs. Teacher." He pulls the lollipop out of his pocket. I know he doesn't have much or get treats very often, but he was giving what he had. It touched my heart. I told him, "You know Mrs. Teacher is on a diet and can't have sweets, but if I were ever going to have a treat, this would be the best one ever because it came from you. Why don't you eat it, and I'll enjoy that you wanted to share it with me, and I'll enjoy that you are enjoying it. That way we both get joy from one lollipop. Thanks. That was just the nicest gift you could offer me. I appreciate it." He smiled at me and said "OK" and walked off a little taller and happier.
    Sometimes students do things that don't hurt my feelings, but make me feel like I'm getting through. ;)
     
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    We are quite special...thanks!

    No way I could do summer. It becomes a free-for-all with no structure, no academics whatsoever. No direct instruction allowed. You have different kids in and out, and of course, the staff/administrators kids drop in too. Nobody follows rules. Playing and eating all day. Candy and junk food becomes the standard fare in place of a healthy breakfast and lunch and snack. Lots of treats throughout the day = sugar rush on top of hyperactive kids. Playing out in the heat of the summer sun means I'm standing there getting UV rays for hours on end. Bumps and bruises, scrapes and bee stings. Field trips with whiners, cries, and always losing things.

    That's IMO, babysitting.

    I have a deep respect for park district summer camp counselors.
     
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    No you don't, or you wouldn't liken their postition to baby-sitting LOL!!!
     
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    I beg to differ. I see babysitting as something a friend or family member or paid worker does with 1-5 kids at a time.

    But to work with a large group and have free play activities all day long takes skill, and patience and in that regard I respect park district workers (who are usually teenagers).
     

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