Do you feel guilty if you skip an interview?

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  1. Milsey

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    I was on my way to one today. I feel guilty, but I was lugging a heavy bag, felt all sweaty, my hair all frizzy, so I just turned around and got the train home.
    I like to stay fit, but 11 Blocks is waay to much walking. I'm sure something else will come up.
     
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  3. mollydoll

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    No need for you to feel guilty. They got what they needed out of the interview.
     
  4. Aliceacc

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    Did you cancel or just skip?

    I would not skip an interview unless some sort of medical emergency prevented me from getting to both the interview and a phone. I think it's incredibly rude to leave someone waiting for you if you have no intention of showing up.

    But if I could get to a phone and the emergency came up, I would cancell once we got out of the ER.

    Though, to be honest, frizzy hair and feeling sweaty would not have been the type of emergency that would cause me to cancel, particularly in this economy.
     
  5. MrsC

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    This doesn't sound like the best strategy if you are wanting a job. Unfortunately, the education world is very small and being a "no show" at an interview could have some far-reaching repercussions.
     
  6. teacherintexas

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    This. :rolleyes:
     
  7. JustMe

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    Well said.

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  8. mkbren88

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    I would never skip. I had to call and cancel 4 interviews that were scheduled before I was offered a position. I figured that it was in my best interest as a perspective employee to communicate with them, rather than leave them hanging. Principals talk, so hopefully you aren't looking at other schools in that district.
     
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    :yeahthat: Perfect observation, Molly!
     
  10. czacza

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    :yeahthat:
     
  11. teach42

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    I came to an interview really sweaty after walking over a mile to it. I would never think of leaving them hanging. I just went to the restroom to freshen up before my interview.
     
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    *Like*
     
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    When I was seriously job hunting, I wouldn't have decided that I just didn't feel like going because I was sweaty, frizzy, whatever. If I needed the job 11 blocks to walk would be nothing.
     
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    I've been on over 30 interviews in the last 6 years....and never once cancelled, even if I didn't feel like going....I figured each one was a learning experience to land the perfect job. I even went to one the day after coming home w/a baby. I would feel guilty if I didn't go.
     
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    I would've at least called to cancel.
     
  16. geoteacher

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    I'm not sure why you wouldn't call to cancel. I try not to burn any bridges. I remember going to one interview only to come face-to-face with a principal who I interviewed with previously.
     
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    :yeahthat:


    People walk more than 11 blocks with heavy bags to catch a flight at the airport...so to skip a job interview (in this economy) over that?! I could hardly believe what I was reading in the original post.
     
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    I wouldn't feel guilty, but I wouldn't make this a habit as the education community is a small world.
     
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    Milsey?
    Did you get a hold of them afterwards and explain why you skipped? I hope so. I have this picture of your hair all UP in the air, and for that I am :lol:, 'cause I have had frizzy hair days, and it's a funny sight.
    So :sorry: Milsey.
    Did you really skip one, OR just asking for the sake of it?
    Rebel1
     
  20. czacza

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    Were you let go from your most recent job, Milsey?
     
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    I'm having a hard time believing this is even a real story...
     
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    I would feel guilty if I didn't at least call to cancel. I might even still feel a little guilty if I did call because someone else could have had that interview time slot. If it had been a true emergency, I would not feel guilty for calling to cancel though.
    Obviously, this wasn't something you were all that interested in or you would have been there, frizzy hair and all.
    However, what's done is done. I suggest not feeling guilty anymore since it's not productive. Just brush yourself off, spray some anti-frizz styling spritz in your hair and move on.
     
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    Like :thumb: Like :thumb: (Now where is that button?)
     
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    I would only cancel an interview if I was deathly ill or a relative was deathly ill, and I'd probably wait til I was at the hospital to call them (to "prove" I wasn't lying, I guess). While everyone avoids their responsibilities from time to time, I think a job interview is the very last thing you want to blow off. And keep in mind that the education world is very small. If you must cancel an interview, please call! Don't leave them hanging.
     
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    In this job market I think this is foolish to do. But you have to do what you have to do for you. But I agree with everyone else, you should have called them!
     
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    I would not skip an interview in this economy, but if I had to, I would call and cancel.
     
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    Never "no show" an interview but it is certainly acceptable to call up and cancel (but not at the last minute).

    Memories are long in this matter and in a small geographic area word can get around.
     
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    The only times I have cancelled an interview have been when I have already accepted another position.

    Then I called the principal that I had an interview scheduled with to let them know. That way my interview slot could be given to someone else.

    Frizzy hair??? Get a pony tail holder.
     
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    Me too:eek:hmy:
     
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    Yeah, I'm not buying it either. Frizzy hair and 11 blocks?!!! Funny
     
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    I would never skip an interview. Based on discussions here, people are getting frustrated because most of the time they don't even hear back after an interview, or submit 50 applications just to get one. And then to cancel, because you don't look cute??

    I mean I don't think the interview panel cares about your frizzy hair, or if you're sweaty. Go to the bathroom, wash up, wet your hands, run it through your hair. What you look like doesn't count half as much as the knowledge and skills you offer.
    Ok, we want to look professional, yes. But your situation can be explained if you feel you must: tell them about the 11 blocks you had to walk to get to this interview, and make them see that that's how interested and dedicated you are about getting this job.

    People stress about giving a bad interview - a no show is 10 times worse than that.
     
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    So true. For the interview at my current school, I was wearing khakis and a turtleneck sweater--no jacket. I had quite elaborate henna tattoos on the back of both hands and around my wrists. I had taught all day and had been outside for supervision duty on the muddy field. I looked far from my best, but with an hour notice for the interview, I did the best I could--a quick splash of water on my face, a finger-comb through my hair, freshened up blush and lipstick. I was offered the job the next day.
     
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    You can't change the past, so don't worry. Just don't do it again.

    I think it's always worth to at least go on the interview, because sometimes you can be surprised in a good way. If you don't like the place, you can send them a professional Decline Offer letter, which is how I handled my last offer.

    Just...from now on keep in mind, like some others said, that it's a sometimes unfortunately small world.

    Onward, and upward, right?
     
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    Not to hijack the thread (although OP has yet to respond to anyone), but do people actually post fake stories on here? I mean other than when people specifically say "this is a hypothetical situation that i want opinions on." This isn't the first time I've heard ppl be skeptical of posts. What would be the purpose of doing that?
     
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    There are hundred of applicants who would happily walk 11 blocks for that interview, and we all have bad hair days just saying...
     
  36. czacza

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    It's quite a past.
     
  37. Aliceacc

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    For a little perspective, read some of the OP's other posts.
     
  38. Rebel1

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    I agree with you waterfall.
    Rebel1
     
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    I did and I now have that perspective. :rolleyes:
     
  40. geoteacher

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    I agree.
     
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    Hmmm, I would think if one was fit, that walking a few blocks wouldn't have been an issue.

    I'm betting you backed out for another reason.
     
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