Do you every Cry because you are MAD?

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  1. TeacherShelly

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    Do you ever Cry because you are MAD?

    Today, for the first time in a very long time, a conversation I had made me so MAD I almost couldn't hold back the tears. I wasn't sad at all, just furiously defensive over a comment someone made. And tears didn't come spilling down my face, although it was a Herculean effort on my part to keep them back.

    Isn't that frustrating, to be angry and defensive and then cry? I hate it! I don't want the other person to think I'm weak or sad, I was neither, just royally smoked.

    Ugh.
     
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    Yes!
     
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    I knew it wasn't just me. :hugs: STG
     
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    I'm not a big confrontal person to begin with. Last week I confronted someone at work, and after she walked off, I could feel the tears welling up. I had to go to the bathroom and cry it out so no one would know.
     
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    Oh, I know what you mean. I really wanted to have a nice long cry after this thing today, but it was time to get the girls from the daycare and go home. So I sulked instead.

    People should just be nicer!
     
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    I always cry at the end of Apollo 13.
     
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    I totally agree! I'll get really angry, begin to cry, and then get even madder when people try to hug or comfort me. I'm not SAD I'm ticked! Don't try to hug me! :)
     
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    I almost always cry after I get mad and get into a confrontation with someone. So I try to always stay calm now so I wont have to deal with that. And it always makes the other person more mad if you're calm!
     
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    stg- not only our df and dh very similiar, but so are we!
     
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    Oh yes, when I get mad, the tears just roll. I agree, I avoid those situations because I don't want to cry in front of the offender.
     
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    I cry too and hate people seeing me cry for any reason.
     
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    yes, I have been so mad that I can cry and I too hate that feeling.
     
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    I do-and I don't like it, but it is who I am.
     
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    DITTO
     
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    I do the same thing and it bugs me so much.
     
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    Me too... that is usually the only reason I cry. Then people try to comfort me, which makes me even more mad.
     
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    I'm sure I have although, no specific situation comes to mind.
     
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    Sarge, LOL, what the heck?

    So DO you cry when you're steaming mad?
    Or DO you get smokin mad at the end of Apollo 13 and brim with tears? Hee hee. :p
     
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    IowaTeacher, yes! When I'm that mad, I don't recommend reaching for a hug ! Ha. My conversation yesterday that lit my fuse was on the phone, thankfully, so there was no reach. Thank goodness!

    Far From Home, it's funny you say that about people being more mad when you're calm. For sure, that's true. What killed me is that I was just having some normal conversation, routine really, with someone I didn't know when she took a turn for the savage and attacked the integrity of my teacher-mates. Staying calm would have flown right over her head. Instead I told her I felt sick after that comment and needed to hang up.

    OldTeacher TeacherNY, Jessica, Loves2Teach & DHE, we're in the same boat!

    Knitter63, that's a zen attitude. It is who I used to be, but until yesterday it had been so very long since I got emotionally hooked by someone like that.
     
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    Yeah, that is me. I can only take so much then the emotions have to escape somehow.
     
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    Yes. I make sure to leave before the tears start coming, though! This always happens when I hear abuse stories because I get so angry for the person telling me the story that I end up crying out of anger for the injustice done to them. Leaving is better because it puts the person in a very awkward position! ("Why are you getting mad? It happened to me!")
     
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    Yes, and it's makes me even more angry!
     
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    Yes!

    My technique was to just clam up and retreat from the person. That didn't work very well for me, and I started getting ulcers in my 30s.

    Finally, something really big happened that made me cry for almost a year whenever I thought about it. I was still so angry. So I wrote the person a letter listing all the ways the person had violated the rules of friendship in the incident. And I mailed the letter. It was empowering in a way. But changed me as a person.

    Now when I am angry, I state my anger plainly and calmly. I have worked hard on this and I think I go a little overboard sometimes.
     
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    Happens to me all the time. Like Bella in Twilight, my tear ducts seem to be wired to the anger part of my brain. Ugh!

    I haven't found a good solution other than waiting until I can get to a private area to let the tears go.
     
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    This must be gender-centric as with many topics in this area of the boards.

    When I'm that angry, I flush, I get tunnel vision, and I'm likely acting on a reactionary impulse to overcome whatever it is that has brought me to that point. Violence wouldn't be out of the question but I've been very good at keeping control and I work very very very hard at never getting to that point.

    This has only happened about five times ever. My Father was there for two of them, my Mother once, a house mate, and a soon after ex-girlfriend.

    I usually say the meanest most hurtful things I can think of.

    Crying has never been apart of it.
     
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    I'm the same way. I remember one of the last "big" arguments I had with my mother--I was so mad I couldn't hold back the tears--the chin starts trembling and everything. This is definitely my weakness. Hate it!
     
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    Yes, when I get really angry, my voice gets very soft, very low in tone and quite raspy. I can barely get the words out because my throat is so tight, and I'm usually crying by that point. I've reached it several times with my husband, and a couple with co-workers. Once with a principal. It's like I'm in control, but I'm also out of control.
     
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    I must be wired different or something. Maybe it's as I get older, but I rarely get "mad" about anything and if I do, I don't cry, I just get MAD. On the other hand, when I feel sadness, I cry quietly and reflect, then figure out what I can do about it.
     
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    Yes but not in front of an audience.
     

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