Whenever I have a small group of children who need to do something, I say "my friends". For instance, "Uh oh, I see that my friends in housekeeping need to come back and clean up." 1. Is this developmentally appropriate? I'm trying not to speak down to the children, and I do not reply, "We're all friends here" when a child tells me that "__________'s not my friend". It's not truthful--they're not all going to be friends, but they need to get along. I say something like, "I think that __________ made you angry, and it's okay to be angry. Do you want to talk about it?" 2. If it's not appropriate, what words do you use? "Classmates" seems too offical, "children" seems trivializing.