Do adults at your school call each other "Mr. Name" or Mrs. Name"?

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  1. Jerseygirlteach

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    I find this odd, but it is done regularly at my school. Every single person calls the principal and secretary "Mrs. Name". There are other teachers at the school that have introduced themselves to me as Mrs. Name. I feel odd calling an adult Mrs. or Mr. when I work with them every day. I guess this was more common long ago, but it feels awkward to be so formal now.

    Is it done at your school or does everyone just use first names when the kids aren't around?
     
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    We do it almost without fail. It is very rare for any of us to call each other by a first name. It's just habit, I guess, but of course, here in the south, it's always habit, lol.
     
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    I always call my P 'Mr'. I call colleagues Ms, Mrs, Mr only when kids are around.
     
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    No one calls anyone by Mr/Ms/Mrs LastName. (Well, besides students!)

    My P called a teacher by her first name on the daily news this morning. I doubt she even noticed.
     
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    Only when kids are around. I also refer to admin that way out of respect. But my new school is big on first names. It's a big change for me....my last school was just last names. Like "Hey, Smith, I got a graphic organizer for you!" :lol: It'd be so weird to call my old colleagues by their first names.
     
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    I was just talking about this to one of our teachers. Our teachers are a mix. I call everyone by their first name except our superintendent. Some teachers call each other by first name and then refer to the principal by last name. Some call some teachers by first name and others by last. I guess it just depends.

    I introduce myself as DG, not Ms. Piaffe, so I prefer to call others by their first name as well. I also hate it when people in the same job as you call you by your first name but expect you to call them by their last name. I think it has to do with an age thing. I feel like they don't look at me like a colleague then.
     
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    We address each other as Mr./Ms./Mrs. when kids are around. Otherwise, we call each other by our first names (teachers and admin included). That being said, we also sometimes call each other by our "formal" names even when we're speaking casually. This is done more in jest (for lack of a better word) than anything else.
     
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    It depends on the staff. I worked with some teachers about 5 years ago and when talk to them I still call them Ms. _____, but is more out of affection not professionalism. At my present school we call each other by only a last name, initials, first name or "school given" nickname. We call one teacher Crack (not even close to her real name but when she was hired we thought her name was McCracken and someone decided that her name was too long) all of the time -- it is funny hearing our principal introducing her as Crack to presenters.
     
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    This is my school as well.
     
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    Me too... but I did have a few teachers that were there and taught me...so I called them Mrs.... whatever. I guess that is just out of habit.

    I still send my 3rd grade teacher a Christmas card and I still address it as Mrs..... Even though she sends one with her first name...LOL!!! She probably laughs everytime she gets it!!! LOL!!!
     
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    This is how it has been in all of the school I've worked in.
     
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    We all call each other by our first names, including admin. Of course, we use titles in the presence of students or parents.
     
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    We call each other by last names when kids are around. When kids aren't around, it's sort of a crapshoot. Some people use first names, some people stick with last names, and some people (including me) do a mixture of both. Most people call me just by my initials, like "Hey, ABC!" (weird, I know).

    I normally call administrators by whatever they introduced themselves to me as. For now, that means that I call the principal Mr. Soandso, but I call my direct supervisor by his first name.
     
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    Mr./Mrs./Ms. at our school almost all the time, around kids or not.

    (My colleagues are VERY "stand-offish.")


    :rolleyes:
     
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    Ummm.... to add to my post- when the kids are around, we usually (at least try to) call each other by Ms. Whathername, but it sometimes (frequently) slips out the other way.
     
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    We clall teachers by their first name only when students aren't around. Otherwise, it's Mr. or Mrs.
     
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    I've noticed this at my new school too. In my last school we would only call each other by ms/mr lastname if kids were around. Here, I notice that the two veteran teachers on my team call everyone by their last name even casually with just adults, which I think is weird. They're very close with each other and it doesn't seem like they're saying it as a joke...it's very weird to me!
     
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    Yes, if students are around.
     
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    This reminds me of a science teacher I had in junior high. He introduced himself as "Donaldson", so that's what we all called him. Not Mr. Donaldson, just Donaldson. I remember one teacher in another class absolutely laying into us one day when she overheard us talking about the homework that was due in Donaldson's class. I guess she thought it was extremely offensive and disrespectful for us not to say "Mr.". My thought was that if he didn't care, we didn't have to either. :haha:
     
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    We use titles or last name only. First names rarely.
     
  22. Ima Teacher

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    It varies. We do both.

    Years ago I had a class with a co-worker friend. The others in the class thought it was funny that we called each other Mrs. Lastname.
     
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    First name, unless kids are around. I also call my admin by their first names, even up to the superintendent. Not everyone does that, but as union president I meet with them frequently so I am comfortable calling them by their first names.
     
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    :(:eek::huh::eek:hmy:

    Based on this thread, the military has a more relaxed environment than teaching. I'm not sure I'd get along at some of your schools.

    At my school, it's all first names, including the principal. If kids are around, we try to use titles and last names, but not always.

    The kids at our school are smart enough to know that all their teachers have first names, but they are not allowed to use them.

    Now, in the military, for me, it was much the same. All enlisted used first names regardless of rank unless we were in actual formal situations or referring to each other in the third person talking to someone from another unit.

    With officers, we used either "sir" or their rank and last name unless then were a colonel or a general. Then you called them "colonel" or "general" in order to remind them how high ranking they were. If an officer and an NCO or airman were friends, they might use first names off duty.

    That was active duty. In the reserves, it was all first names.
     
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    We go by first names only- with students and other adults.
     
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    Out of earshot of the kids we use first names but outside in the corridors and classrooms we refer to each other as Mr, Miss, Mrs so and so.
     
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    We all call each other by our first names when we are not with the students. It is such a habit of mine that it is difficult to make sure I do not slip up when we are with students.
     
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    It depends.

    Members of the religious community are either "Brother" or "Father."

    Everyone else in the building I refer to by his or her first name. (I used to use "Mr" for the dad of our AP, but we lost him a few years ago.)

    There are several younger faculty members who attended our school, who still refer to people as "Mr" or "Mrs" in spite of requests to use first names. They're just not comfortable using first names with their former teachers, and that's fine.

    In front of the kids, though, EVERYONE has a title.
     
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    I could NEVER call my former teachers by their first names. :eek: If my 6th grade teacher was suddenly my grade level partner she would be Mrs. G forever. I could never be like "Hey, Mary..." :eek: So weird....
     
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    For admins, always Mr. and Mrs. because they are the bosses. I couldn't imagine calling my principal by his first name. I have never called any boss I ever had by his first name.

    Among teachers, we use the Mr. and Mrs. only when kids are around. Sometimes we slip up and call each other by our first names and the kids are like :eek:hmy:
     
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    In my last school I always called them "Last Name". But it wasn't out of formalities. It was a very relaxed type of thing. I don't know how to describe it. But my coworkers would say things like "what's up Last Name?" or "I was at Last Name's room and saw so and so". So we left off the "Mr.Ms.Mrs" part.

    At my current school I use both ways. It's more common here for teachers to use their first names with students. To call someone "Dona Last Name" is extremely formal. Like talking to the president. Because this is a German school kids use the words "Frau" and "Herr". Some kids call me "Frau Last Name" some call me "Frau First Name". So it carries over with the teachers. This was sort of confusing... :rolleyes:
     
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    At my former school, I frequently referred to my principal (out of the ear shot of students) by her first name. In front of her and other teachers I'd use Mrs. I also referenced her by her first name on occasion in front of parents especially parents I felt comfortable with. This put me in an weird situation once. A parent emailed her about a topic after I had discussed that topic with the parent. The parent started the email off to the principal with the principal's first name. The principal was flabbergasted because she felt like she didn't know this parent well. I know the parent only did it because I had referenced the p as her first name numerous times with this parent. I don't think the principal ever realized that it was me who was at fault because I simply shrugged it off as "oh well, you know how she is.". I do think that the use of last names has its place and should be used when appropriate.
     
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    I teach alongside many of my former teachers. Although they insist that I call them by their first names, I just can't.

    Pretty much everyone at my school calls each other Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so.
     
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    Most teachers use Mr/Ms. Name.... some just use first names and some just use last names. If I were a teacher I would call teachers by Ms/Mr Name around students otherwise it would be their first name.
     
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    I always call other teachers by their last names, but part of that might be because I'm so much younger than all of the other teachers, and I feel like a student here myself. xD

    I think I am occasionally called Mr. _____ by some of the teachers, but I think the majority of them just call me by my first name, which I am fine with.

    I like calling those who are older than me Mr. ____________ or Mrs. _____________ by default anyway, because I feel that gives them the proper respect. I don't really like it when they say "Call me by my first name! Mr./Mrs. makes me sound so old!"

    I hate to point it out, but they are old. But they should be proud of that fact.
     
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    I hate to be blunt, but if you really want to give people proper respect, refer to them as they wish and certainly don't point out to them that they are old.
     
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    So anyone older than you is old?
     
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    Same here. There are only 11 of us, so we all know each other pretty well.
     
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    We all call one-another by our first names. Many people do so even when students are present. I always call teachers by Mrs./Mr. _____ when students are around.
     
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    I call the P and VP by their titles almost all the time. I'm new to the school so I also call teachers I don't know well Mr. and Mrs. This is out of habit from my mom drilling into me to address adults as Mr. and Mrs. My friends referred to my mom as Mrs. Mylastname, and she would insist we call our friends parents by Mr/Mrs. It's a hard habit to break.

    I forget that I'm an adult now too.
     
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    When I was at my first school, 5 years ago, I was in a very rural, old-fashioned southern town. All of the teachers called each other Mr. and Mrs. I've seen several of them in social situations since, and even if they are the same age as me, I still say "Mr/ Mrs", which can appear awkward, but it's really uncomfortable to do anything else. Sometimes we will just omit the Mr/ Mrs. and just say their last name, like the Smith example. All of the kids just called everyone "Mizz" (insert southern accent).

    Every other school teachers call each other by their first name.
     

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