dilemma...opinions, please I had a student in my class this year who has some huge aggression/noncompliance issues. The issues moved into the classroom and resulted in four 2-day out of school suspensions, the police being called 3 times to help restrain the child, parents threatening to sue, a 5-day OSS because he assaulted a kindergarten student, and recommendation to his dad that he be referred for psychiatric services. I begged for help for the child, and after four months, the school psych finally agreed an EDBD referral was necessary. We had the m-team and IEP in February. We also developed a behavior intervention plan. The plans included the goal of his learning to comply and to express anger in an appropriate manner. The next day the special ed teacher started "shadowing" him in my classroom. He was now expected to comply per the IEP and behavior plan. He didn't. She didn't follow the IEP or BIP. Two days later, the social worker and director of pupil services came into my room...1:45 Friday afternoon, while the kids were out at recess...and told me he was going to be moved to a different classroom. I was completely taken by surprise. I didn't think moving him was in his best interest for several reasons, I told them the IEP team decided not to move him...I was told that it wasn't an IEP decision. I was in tears when they told me, but I was told I had no choice or input. The special ed teacher never even brought him back into the classroom after recess on Friday, and he was to start in the new classroom that day!! I talked with the teacher to whose room he was relocated. I showed her the IEP and BIP, talked about his academic levels, gave her his family history, etc. Okay...now for the dilemma part. His IEP and BIP are not being followed. If he doesn't want to participate in guided reading, he can draw or play tic-tac-toe with the aide. When she walks down the hall with him, she's tickling him or trying to make him laugh. Several times I've seen her walking with him standing on her feet and her arms wrapped around his shoulders. These are on good days!! In phy ed he got angry and threw some equipment; the aide was going to sit on the floor and hold him in her lap and sing to him (this has become the MO)...the gym teacher kicked him out. The aide came back later and asked if he could do the activity after school because he didn't think it was fair that he had to leave class. He's started talking baby talk. He doesn't participate in class. He does whatever he wants, whenever he wants. It's ridiculous. His new classroom teacher won't say anything because she's still on probation and afraid of being written up. He's gone backward, has no expectations, and is being taught to be a victim. It's breaking my heart. Do I talk to the principal? To the superintendent? Keep my mouth shut??? If his dad knew he was learning he could do what he wanted to and wasn't receiving instruction if he chose not to, he'd be irate. Should I tell his dad? By the way, his dad has chosen not to take him to a counsellor...he's doing so much better!! Dad doesn't know what's going on, just that the child isn't being aggressive or non-compliant. 'Magine that!!! Any words of wisdom, advice, ideas, will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.