Difficult Pre-K Student, Parents Shocked, help!

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  1. SittinInATree

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    I have a pre-k student who is so disruptive and has such bad behavior that I am constantly talking to her. I mentioned to the parents about her behavior and they refuse to believe it is their kid's fault or that she is as bad as I think she is (not that I ever called her bad, but they have this, "Not my child!" attitude. I talked to one teacher who is friend's with the family and she said this girl is so pampered, its not even funny. She is the only child and almost has 4 adults raising her and everything is about this girl and they never say no to her. Well you can tell in class because she never listens! She is almost willing to get in trouble if it means she got to be silly or talk with the other girls. She is so defiant. She is also very bossy and mean to her peers by talking in bratty voices and acting superior. I am having a conference with the parents and I just want to make sure that I approach this the best way. My para and a specials teacher (who is the friend of the family) will sit in on it with me, which I think will be a big help. Do you have any advice for me on how to approach this with the parents? Thanks!
     
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    I would recommend that one of her parents volunteer in the classroom. I would also suggest having an outside observer like the director or principal come in and "observe" her. This way you will have another opinion regarding her behavior. Lastly, document her behavior. Try a time study where you document her every movement good and bad for at least a half an hour. This is time consuming but if you can do it for a few days you may be able to document a pattern of behavior.
     
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    I second having an observer(director, principal, or even another teacher) observe and make notes about the behaviors they see. The time study is a good idea also. I have done this. I made a chart and put in the time of day, activity(these can be filled in ahead of time for your schedule), the child's behavior, what you did(redirect, seperate, etc), child's reaction, and a column for notes. I would suggest doing it for a whole day or even several days. It is time consuming but valuable info. is gained. If someone else could do it, that would be even better.

    Is the behavior something that could be captured on photos? I have done this for behavior problems. Parents have a hard time denying picture evidence.

    Does your school system have a behavior specialist? They could be a lot of help.

    It may not be possible, but if a parent could hide and watch without the child knowing they are there, that would be enlightening to them.
     
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    All I can say is document, document, document. No matter what you say, it won't matter unless you have the documentation and the specific examples to back up what you're saying to them.

    Also remember too, that parents can sometimes refuse to listen to what you have to say and might withdraw the child from your school. I've had that happen MANY times and there's really nothing you can do about it. You owe it to the child and to the family to be honest with them.

    Good luck.
     
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    Now, I have no idea if that's legal or not, but if you have a videocamera, which a lot of people own this days, maybe you can put it on and record a few hours and then show it to the parents
     
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    Thanks everyone
     

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