Ok, ok, it's a pretty loaded question for a message board (and would require tons of honesty to admit you didn't) but I'm curious.... Are you confident you married The One? I'm unmarried, but I know my BF isn't the One, and it bothers me. I love him, yet I'm not in love with him. Strangely, my first love broke my heart by telling me that, and I hated him for it. But years later, here I am living it.