Did you marry the right person?

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  1. Pisces_Fish

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    Ok, ok, it's a pretty loaded question for a message board (and would require tons of honesty to admit you didn't) but I'm curious....

    Are you confident you married The One? I'm unmarried, but I know my BF isn't the One, and it bothers me. I love him, yet I'm not in love with him. Strangely, my first love broke my heart by telling me that, and I hated him for it. But years later, here I am living it.
     
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  3. jw13

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    Yes I did...for many reasons he is The One.

    If you aren't "in love" with your bf, you really need to think about why you might be sticking around.
     
  4. loveforquantum

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    Yes, i'm quite sure i married the right person. And like jw13, i have many reasons.

    I hope everything works out well for you in the end. I'm sure it will. :hugs:
     
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    I didn't marry the right man. I knew on my wedding day that I was making a huge mistake and I so desperately wanted leave him standing at the alter. I told myself, "there's always divorce." We're divorced now. :)
     
  6. Ima Teacher

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    I sure hope DH is "The One" because we had the "divorce is not an option" discussion before we got married.

    I wouldn't have kept dating him if I couldn't have seen myself with him for the long haul. I'm not the type of person who needed to be in a relationship, so I wouldn't stay with a person I didn't see a future with.
     
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    I'm sure I married "The One" as well. There are many reasons, but the main one is the fact that I don't know anyone else that could put up with me. :)
     
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    Aww, Pisces, I would say if you don't find your current boyfriend to be "the one" then maybe consider breaking up with him altogether. It'd be best for him to be able to move on and find someone who does want to marry him.
     
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    I know I did. He may be a pain in the "umm" often enough but he is there for me always. I love him for it. He shares his love everyday. That's enough for me.
     
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    haha stg- thats what im looking for someone who can put up with me :lol::lol: no luck so far
     
  11. Sunny Teacher

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    I love my boyfriend to pieces, but I don't think he's the one. :( It's hard to break up with someone you do love so much though...
     
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    My mom put a bumper sticker on my husband's old car that said,

    "Marriage is finding that one special person you CAN annoy for the rest of your life."
     
  13. New3rdTeacher

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    my husband is by far the best person for me!!! He's the best thing to come in to my life and I am so blessed to have him in my life :)
     
  14. chemteach55

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    My hubby is the "ONE"--after all he has put up with me for 22 years and I never thought anyone could do that. Today he is the greatest. Yesterday I "accidently" permanently deleted all my files on my laptop and he spent the entire day restoring everything. I dated several before him and knew immediately that I would spend the rest of my life with him. This shocked our friends because we are total opposites.
     
  15. kcjo13

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    Yup. No question about it, he's just...it. I don' t know how to explain it. A lot of people have talked about annoying/being annoyed by that person...it's true! I may be annoyed by something he says or does, but in my mind, I'm thinking OK, when can this be over so we can be 'us' again? He's the one whom I can't imagine NOT being with...when I think of "old me", he's right there in my mind...my goals/wishes/life is his, and vice versa...we're just intertwined...
     
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    Absolutely, he's The One.

    And, even nicer in the wee hours of the morning, I know I'm The One for him as well :)
     

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