This came up in another thread - were you married or engaged before you moved in with your SO? Any opinions on the matter? My BF and I are moving in with each other this summer after dating for 2 years (will be 2 and a half by the time I move). This involves significant upheaval for me... getting certs in another state which means Praxis tests I didn't take before, new background check, giving up a good rep and dept chair position where I am now. People ask us a lot when we are going to get engaged, and we always look at them like they are crazy. No WAY would we do that without living together first. But we have talked about marriage and have agreed that the ring will probably come after we have lived together a little while and know we can still tolerate each other. haha. If he lived in the same town as me, the situation might be a little different. I might not be in such a rush to move in because I could see him whenever I wanted. Right now we can only do weekends. Any thoughts/analysis of your own situations?