Hi fellow teachers, I need some advice. I am friends with someone that my best friend hates. This hatred between them goes back many years and it is ugly. This is true hatred....I can't stress that enough. My best friend feels that I should've stuck up for her kids and her against this person when she was making accusations against her son for bullying her son at football (last year). I didn't and I've remained neutral and that's that! I've recently become closer friends with "friend B" over that past 6 months because our kids play the same sport which involves spending a lot of time together on weekends at meets and tournaments. We have a group of parents that hang out with a lot which includes "friend B and her husband" and is just a result of us constantly being together because of our kids. Even though the sport is over now we still hang out together at each others houses on weekends at least once a month. Well, yesterday I went to the pool with my best friend (we've always gone together for years) and "friend B" has a pool pass there also. "Friend B" had asked earlier in the day if I wanted her to save me a seat by her. I felt bad and said yes, figuring I would split my time at the pool between them. It was so uncomfortable and awkward and I felt like I was back in high school again. Anyways, the best friend is completely hurt and betrayed. Did I do something wrong? I basically told her that I still want to be close friends with her but at the same time I cannot snub this other person either. This person has never done anything to me personally. I know all of this sounds immature and childish and that no one should dictate who you are friends with. I never thought as a 40 yr. old woman I would be going through this. Should she just suck it up and accept it? or am I not being empathetic enough towards her. What makes matters worse is that our kids are also very good friends. BTW--next time I go to the pool, I'm sitting beside myself. Books make wonderful friends.