Dealing with Clingers/Cryers?

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  1. bethany1120

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    Tomorrows my first day back to school with the kiddos. The beginning of the year is always tough in K, but my least favorite part is dealing with kids who cling to parents and cry! Any good tips on dealing with kiddos who do this to make it an easier transition??
     
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  3. christine89

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    I'd say just try and have something really engaging for the kids to do when they come in. My first day I had homemade playdough out on their desks that they could play with after they got their supplies settled.
    Also, it may be good to have you or other teachers/helpers around to help comfort those who are having a hard time. Hopefully after the parents leave the crying just goes on for a few minutes. Thankfully I didn't have many clinging and crying so all you can do is hope for the best!!
     
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    I let them play in the mornings! This gives them many options and opportunities to mingle with new and old friends! I also don't allow parents IN my room...they can walk them to my door, but they aren't allowed INSIDE until November! lol :) DISTRACT them! Guide them to another activity or have them "HELP" you do something. I also have a special place they can sit and read or write a note/draw a picture for the family member they miss... A stuffed animal they can hug while they cry helps too!
     
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    Manda, how do you explain that to your parents... not allowed in the room? I LOVE that idea.
     
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    When I call to invite families to Open House I tell them to bring their camera and I will pose with their child or let them take pictures all night long. However, in the morning they won't be allowed in the room. I tell them after years of teaching, I have found it best for not only the child but the parent. I even encourage them to leave them at the front door where another teacher will escort them to my classroom! Surprisingly, I usually have many that do this! Some even send them on the bus! The quicker the parents leave, the better! I have done this the past 4 years or so and it has worked beautifully!:)
     
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    We have had school for 3 days. The child who cries the most missed 2 of the days. I called and left mom a message that this is not good for the child. Tuesday is going to be terrible with this little girl. I am not looking forward to going back after the long weekend.
     
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    Yes! That will definitely make it worse! If parents enable them it makes it worse!!!
     
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    During open house I took pictures of the students with their families. I found a photo album to place all their pictures in so when they are feeling sad they can go look at the pictures.

    Sadly I had several new students join my class on the first day of school so I was not able to get pictures of them with their families. But I found a time they were smiling to snap their pictures. This has helped.
     
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    I have a large (5X5) square taped off in front of my door. It has little signs that say drop off zone. the parents must drop off their children in the drop off zone. If the child is truely upset I comfort them and give them a stuffed animal. Some children use crying to manipulate the situation. If they are only crying when they are asked to do something they do not want to I tell them that crying time is over and it is now _____ time- Recess, centers, table work or whatever.
     
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    I always have kids line up the first day outside with parents. I welcome them and have them collectively wave bye-bye to the moms and dads, then they come in for our first morning meeting. Before they come in I tell them they are going to come inside and find a carpet square with their name on it. that gives them something to do immediately.

    To me it seems kids like having the structure right off the bat. Free play would allow too many opportunities for dissent between kids over toys and materials, in my mind. They need to know that someone in the classroom will take care of them and meet their needs, and that's me. I start by telling them how glad I am that they are there, and then I tell them where the bathroom is and that there will be food-- they really need to know those things! I tell them some of the things we are going to do. I am warm, cheerful, and businesslike and I rarely have any tears. I had one girl who cried about once a day for the first several days, but that's over now.
     
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    I promise my students and parents two things for the first days of school! I promise they will eat breakfast and lunch and I promise they will get home at the end of the day!:) I agree! They need to know these important things!:)

    I think it is neat you have all your children come in the same time. I choose free play because my students start arriving at 8:05 and continue to pour in until 8:30. Play is something they can do independently while I welcome the other students... Unfortunately, the morning arrival time is also the only time my children have indoor play time...unless it is raining during recess!
     

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