I admire those of you who went against the current tradition of having ridiculously expensive wedding ëvents" that stress out everyone involved. Some brides seem to want everything to be fairytale perfection. One of my friends has had 2 daughters married in the last yea,r and 2 kids in college. He is drowing in debt and stress. No fun at all for him because he is worried about his own financial future at this point. His third daughter is in a serious relationship and he has told her no marriage for at least 2 years or it will break him. That being said, my parents paid for my wedding 35 years ago, but I sewed my wedding and bridesmaid dresses, we had it in my parents beautiful yard and we made a lot of the food. My in-laws paid for the rehearsal dinner. As the mother of 3 boys, I hope their future wives will be sensible about their weddings. I think people can have perfectly wonderful, meaningful, enjoyable weddings without breaking the bank. Sometimes I think the wedding expectations can be a warning sign of what the future financial expectations will be like.