I apologize in advance if this is a long one... I've had a parent who has been "on top" of me since the beginning. Her child tested out of 1st grade and was moved up a couple of weeks ago. He came from a Montessori environment and the transition has not been easy. Several times during a lesson I have to stop instruction to redirect him back to the group. He never wants to do the work that is asked of him and when he does work, the end result is usually sub-par. He is also fairly immature, which I am assuming is due to his being younger than the rest of my students. Is he gifted? Sure. But the majority of the students in the two classes I teach are reading above level so he's no longer the brightest in the class. I am currently trying to set up Daily 5 in the classroom and I explained what this was to mom so that she knows he will eventually be getting a "choice" of what to do, which will work well with him coming from Montessori. Anyway, a couple of days ago the child left behind his folder (probably the 3rd time it happened in a week) and mom drove him back to school to get it. I happened to be there late (as I always am) and was passing by his HR class when mom stopped me to ask about his spelling. Her child had mentioned that two students in his class were getting a different list and she wondered why he wasn't. One of these students is reading at a 5th grade level with 80% comprehension and the other is reading on a 9th grade level, so yes...I am giving them a different list. I also mentioned that we are about to start Words Their Way so once we get him placed we will determine what list he will get... Tonight during a school-wide event, mom was there and stopped by with a friend she had brought whose child went to the same Montessori school. While I was trying to serve a large crowd food (by myself, mind you) the friend found out I taught English and began to ask specifics regarding my English instruction. Then the conversation turned to...spelling! Meanwhile, my line of parents and students is getting longer... After the event, one of my team teachers came to me and mentioned that she overheard the two of them basically talking bad about me and the school. I was so upset. I feel like I am doing everything I can to be the best I can be. On average, I put in 12-13 hours a day during the week and countless hours on the weekend. My fiancee and I have had arguments because he feels like he never sees me anymore. Do I make mistakes? Sure! I admit to my mistakes...I know I've taught some poor lessons, but I've also taught some really engaging ones too. I guess I just don't know what to do. I feel like I cannot please this parent no matter what I do. I honestly don't think her child is as brilliant as she thinks. While doing my IRIs a couple of weeks ago, I assigned my students a story out of their textbooks and had them complete some comprehension and vocabulary worksheets in response to their story - he bombed. Granted, a lot of the students did poorly (and this gave me a good idea of some strategies and skills to teach), but at the same time my G/T kids did really well so why didn't he? How do you handle a parent like this? I feel like she is going to eventually go to administration. Actually, I know she already has because I got an email for some link to a G/T website from one of the admins. Apparently, I am supposed to be doing what a G/T pull-out teacher would do for him if we had a G/T pull-out program up and running (which we don't right now).