This last year my administration has asked that I take on a leadership role with my staff. This includes work as a facilitator and supervisor of a group of staff members. The work I have been asked to do is within my speciality, curriculum and instruction. Within my group is a group member who is working on her masters in administration and has a history of not being a team member. I wanted her in my group due to her excellent teaching strategies and my respect for her opinion, even though I knew she could be difficult. Our group had many discussions of respecting each other's opinions and even set up rules to follow to be mindful of our dealings with each other. A situation came up where she went over a staff member's head that belongs to my group to find out information to prove the staff member wrong. As the facilitator/supervisor the injured staff member came to me for help. The injured party was well aware of the perpetrator's reputation for retaliation when people dare stand up to her and refused to have a mediated meeting with her. Now forced to have a supervisory meeting with her, I plainly told her that there would be no more of that type of behavior. I told her that I respected her go get 'em attitude to get things "fixed", but she should have approached it differently with the staff member. I also told her that I wanted her as part of the group but she needed to stay within the boundaries established by the group for input. At the time, she agreed, though there was not an apology, just a statement that the other injured party perceived her help incorrectly. Needless to say, now she wants to have a meeting with me again so she can tell me all that I did wrong in meeting with her. She has said that I "deeply hurt her" and she has to get it off her chest. She has told others that she will "never forgive me for what I have done". She also says that I should not be able to be a supervisor to her, that only the principal of the school should be in that position. She also feels that I should not have been put in charge of a group-that she has the training to do it. My question is... do I sit quietly in the meeting and let her get everything off her chest? Is there anything that I should say or will it not do any good? I am thinking that asking her if the principal should mediate for us would be a good step in the meeting instead of letting it escalate more. I am not saying that everything I did was correct. I know that this was a learning experience for me too. I even told her that. I am thinking though that it would not have mattered if it had been me, the injured party or the principal, she would have taken this attitude. Any suggestions for the meeting would be appreciated! Thanks!