coming on too strong

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  1. Lindsnh

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    How to you handle someone coming on too strong...what do you say? I just reconnected with a guy this week that I worked with while I was in college. He is in the military and will be coming home this week to visit before he leaves for overseas...He said we should meet up and I was like sure...why not. Well he has been texting me and is coming on very strong.:blush: I am quite shy and reserved and it makes me feel uncomfotable. I dont want to be rude to him...I kindof just ignored the last text...and he just texted back and said I guess you are busy....ugh what do I say?
     
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  3. VANewbie

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    I'm dealing with someone just like that. It seems like when you ignore them they like you even more.

    I just let him know I was not interested in anything other than friendship and at this point in my life I was too busy to get serious with anyone or think about getting serious.
     
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    You did say you would meet him, right?

    How about "You're coming on a bit strong. Can we meet for coffee on Thursday?"
     
  5. Lindsnh

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    yes, I said I would meet before he started coming on strong.
     
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    Now that he's been coming on strong, are you still going through w/ mtg w/ him? You probably still should. Since he's leaving for the military soon, maybe he wants to mk sure you don't forget, mk other plans, etc., so hopefully it's all innocent & just his excitement & eagerness to see you after all this time!

    I'd say something like, "Don't worry, I won't forget, I'm still mtg w/ ya. If u don't hear frm me for a day or so, I'll be busy."
     

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