So, I've been working a volunteer job with a stipend for about a year. It's been a lot of fun. I know, right? Fun and work usually do not go together. Otherwise they would call it 'play'. Long story short, I'm going to be offered a staff position with a salary that will easily fit my needs due to the low cost of living a residential facility allows. I still get to have fun, personalize all of my work responsibilities, free meals 75% of the time. I mean, as a single man, I could save a lot of money working here. Plus, my organization will even pay for continuing education pre-tax as a portion of my salary if I so desire, which I sort of do. Sounds great. Personally, it is great! Here's the dilemma. I met someone. She hates the out of sync schedule that I have. We get time together but she, obviously, wants more than I have the ability to offer. Desire but no control over my schedule. With my new responsibilities, I'll have a more stable off time situation which will make her happier but that doesn't solve all the problems. The salary will be a mere pittance compared to what the work and commitment are actually worth. Summers are brutal and offer practically no time off which, she's a teacher, is her vacation time. So great opportunity with some sweat equity and very great potential for the future versus a great woman. I'm not quite sure how I'll balance these things out or if they can be balanced. I've already heard, "I can't do summer like that again" as an ultimatum. The pay will not satisfy her but it'll keep me in beans. Right now, I'm just wishing for a larger sense of certainty about how things will unfold and I can't find it. Maybe someone here will offer me a piece of insight that'll put my mind onto a different course. Maybe?