Something I saw on a thread has me curious. Does your school have celebrations for academic achievements? (Making honor roll, meeting AR or AM goal, reading a certain number of books, etc). We do at my school. We celebrate those achievements a lot. We don't do anything to "rub in the face" of those who don't meet them, but we do celebrate the good. We've discussed this topic a dozen different ways and times. We see it as something that was earned and deserves celebrations. I've seen others talk about not celebrating those things because it makes the ones who didn't achieve them feel bad. I certainly do everything I can to never cause pain or unhappiness to my kids, but ...I don't know, if we don't teach them how to approach things that make them uncomfortable or unhappy now - aren't we setting them up for failure? I am an admitted Pollyanna. My friends and family call me that all the time. I always look for the good. The world's not all good, though. People don't always get what they want. We see that all the time. We deal with it because we were taught how to deal with it. I personally feel that society has pushed so far in the other direction that we are raising a generation of kids who don't know how to fail. Or rather, they don't know how to fail and then pick themselves back up. Because we're all standing there, leaned forward, ready to grab them the second they stumble. They never have to pick themselves up because we do it for them. I think of the analogy of learning to ride your bike. Your mom or dad run alongside you holding you upright, keeping you safe, every wobble, every stone, every hole...they're there. At some point, though, they let go. They take off the training wheels and send us off into the scary world all on our own. We wobble, we wiggle, and we wreck. We cry, we get band aids, and we get back on. We learn to lean into those curves and go loose on those wobbles. We learn to hold the bike up - all by ourselves. I think, in society today, we are leaving those training wheels on. It's not just the celebrations. It's the mom that descends on us the second their child struggles, demanding that we fix it. It's the dad that complains that the project was too hard, so they told their child they didn't have to do it. It's the begging for bonus points on tests that were failed because the child just didn't study. It's never letting kids stand on their own when things get tough. I don't know if any of this rambling makes any sense, but it's something my principal and I have been discussing quite often, and it's something we want to address, and try to change. It's a tough, scary world out there. I want to know my kids are going into with with their heads held high, ready for the good and the bad.