can I lose my job for this?

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  1. teacher girl

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    I want to be a special ed teacher, I met a guy on facebook, I thought he was cute so i gave him my phone number. Then, he sent me a bunch of naked pictures and he keeps being perverse?// i don't send him any pictures, I only texted him introducing myself. Like hi, my name is ( first name) (last name) I met you on facebook, and he said a wholelot of perverse things to me, followed by naked pics of himself-- I know teachers have to be upstanding citizens ---- could I get in trouble for this ( i haven't sent him any pics or said anything perverse to him).?????? I'm always aware of my image. I don't want him black mailing me. would i lose my job for this?
     
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  3. czacza

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    Are the naked photos and perverse messages on your FB?
     
  4. Linguist92021

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    You shouldn't get in trouble if you didn't send any pictures. you can't be responsible for what someone does. But you need to
    - delete the pics right away if they're on your page
    - delete the messages if they were sent in a message
    - unfriend him
    - block him - this means he can't ever contact you, or have anything to do with you.

    As far as phone calls, if he calls you you need to tell him to leave you alone.
     
  5. teacher girl

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    no, he sent them to my phone. they are naked pics of himself.... i just met him like yesterday.
     
  6. Caesar753

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    I think that you need to have better sense than to chat with strangers and give them your full name. You won't get fired because some guy sent you pictures of his junk, but you might get fired for other things later on if you don't demonstrate better decision-making and common sense.
     
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    If it's not too nosey to ask, how did you two "meet" on Facebook?
     
  8. MissCeliaB

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    I chat with strangers and give my full name all the time. I don't really understand meeting people on Facebook because I'm set to unsearchable and only friend people I know in real life. But when I meet people in real life, I often exchange phone, email, and full name with them. I would avoid meeting folks on Facebook if they weren't a friend of a friend.
     
  9. teacher girl

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    he sent me a message. he said he thought my profile pic was pretty and added me as a friend on facebook. so i was flattered, and accepted his request.
     
  10. czacza

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    You need to make your page more private. Now.
     
  11. bros

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    Yeah, make your page more private.

    Mine is only searchable to people in certain groups (My colleges that I have attended) and only friends can find my page in search
     
  12. teacher girl

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    yeah, i am deleting him and blocking him from facebook. I may even change my phone number.
     
  13. BumbleB

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    Yeah, you REALLY need to be smarter about these things. There are weirdos everywhere. You need to have better judgement about who is safe to talk to. Just because someone tells you that you're pretty doesn't mean they're worthy of your phone number.
     
  14. PinkCupcake

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    Lesson learned in this case.
     
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    Probably not a need to change your phone number, but you might want to have your provider block HIS number (Verizon provides that for free for a certain number of numbers for a certain length of time). Most likely, he'll get bored after a few days and find someone else to harass. If you're that squicked, consider reporting the unwanted messages.
     
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    You took the words right out of my mouth. Being a special Ed teacher requires an immense amount of responsibility and common sense.
     
  17. Caesar753

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    Real life is different from online. Do you give online strangers your full name? If so, I really believe that you should stop doing that.

    I really don't think that there's anything wrong with chatting with people online or meeting people online. I met my hoosband online--not on a dating site but just on a random chat site (ICQ, if anyone remembers that). I think that online chatting can be a fun way to meet people, but you've got to be safe and smart about it.
     
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    I'm probably showing my age here, but whenever I see teacher/student drama in the newspapers, the words "texting," or "Facebook," or both always seem to be included. Now I admit I'm not always the sharpest tool in the shed, but I am smart enough to maintain my privacy with roughly 320 students in my classes. That means no Facebook, not one of my students (or their parents) have my cell phone number, my private land line would be next to impossible to find, and the only email they're familiar with is my District email address.

    That's all from lessons learned by my wife, who is in her 13th year of teaching.
     
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    Wow, I'd be inclined to report him to the police. I think it sounds really creepy. If he's sending unsolicited naked photos to you, that's bad.
     
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    :agreed:
     
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    Please dont use your real name on facebook and make your page and pictures private. People post too much of their bussiness online.
     
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    I use my real name on FB, but I keep my profile as private as possible and refuse friend requests from current students. I'm difficult to find if you're searching for me, PLUS there are a bunch of other people with my name. On the other hand, my immediate supervisor is one of my FB friends, so that keeps me pleasant with my comments about my profession.
     
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    Turns out our mothers were right. Don't talk to strangers.
     
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    :yeahthat:
     
  25. smalltowngal

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    I remember ICQ! I was on there too, and actually met a boyfriend on there once.

    ^^ This.
     
  26. Autism Speaks

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    Change your phone number :)
     

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