Can I vent here for a minute? This is going to be long but I really am tired of the happenings in this family... My boyfriend's brother has become a jerk. He got married in August to a woman who is the biggest example of the stereotypical only child in a divorced family (can we say SPOILED?!?!). I've put up with her antics because I like my boyfriends family and for the most part things have been annoying but tolerable up until this point. Since these two got married, my bf's brother, we'll call him *R, has become as selfish and irresponsible as she is and they together are VERY rude. Last weekend was my bf's birthday. We had a videogame party with all of our friends and I bought stuff for nachos to have for dinner. When *K (my bf) was asked what time to show up, he told everyone that R was planning on coming over at 6:30 so any time after that was great. R and his new wife, *A, had the entire day off the day of K's party and yet were AN HOUR AND A HALF LATE because they just HAD to go see that Chihuahua movie. They have no children, it was HER that had to see the movie and WHY they had to pick that exact time when they could have gone to a matinee is BEYOND ME. Now, them showing up an hour + late was rude enough but then they were there for MAYBE 15 minutes when they decided the party didn't have enough alcohol and they left to go get some AND WERE GONE FOR TWO HOURS!!!!! Things went fine when they returned but it was just rude!!! We then went out to K's parents house for his family b-day dinner because his grandmother was in town. She lives in Seattle and we only get to see her maybe twice a year so we're always excited when she comes to visit. We play cards and chat and it's always just a lot of fun. R and A sat on the couch and did NOT converse with anyone while we were at their parents house. Then A left because she had to go to work and called R on her way to work, when she got to work, on her break, and when she got OFF work. R had to leave the dinner table to answer his phone because she would get mad if he didn't. THIS weekend was a repeat of last. We had another birthday party for a different friend and this time they were 2 hours late, stayed for a half hour, and left for the rest of the party. They came back at 9 (the party started at 2) and left 15 minutes later. I'm SO tired of this rudeness but I am also newest "member" of this family (actually K and I are the only one's not married now) and I can not be the girlfriend that starts a family feud. I feel like someone else should be the ones saying something but everyone keeps their mouth shut! K just puts up with it and says it's A's way or the highway. I want to pick the highway. I know I should have said something when it was K's party but I didn't and now I feel like it's too late. These two feel it's acceptable to act like this! Can I do anything here or are my hands tied behind my back?