I need advice. My boyfriend (whom I have been dating seriously for almost a year) found out the date he is leaving for Iraq today. We knew it would be sometime soon, but it's now official that the date he goes is the same date as the first day of school with kids. Obviously, missing the first day is not an option for me--we all know the first days of school are so crucial for establishing expectations and all that. But, I'm so stressed out. Under normal conditions, the first day is full of stress anyway, and now I have this on top of it! I just don't know how I'm going to be welcoming, kind, smiling and put forth my normal teaching personality when such a huge event is occurring. We planned on saying goodbye in private anyway (I was not going to go on post with him and cry in front of everyone else, no thanks! haha) but I really didn't think it would have to be in the morning before the first day. I will probably be sobbing on the whole drive to work, and my eyes are going to be puffy and red, and I'm somehow gonna have to pull it together and appear just fine for the students. I don't really want to share this personal part of my life with them just yet--had he been leaving midway through the year, then it would be different. But I prefer to be very mysterious about anything personal until WAY later in the year. After all, we aren't the students' friend. Today was our first workday back, and our P asked if we had any announcements to make, so I made sure to inform the staff that he'd be leaving soon. So everyone knows (but I didn't know til after work today that he's leaving on our first day w/kids). I'm thinking I will pull my P aside and tell her that he will be going on the first day, so during lunch/planning if I have my head down on my desk, that would be why. I'm just so lost, and emotionally drained right now. Any kind words or advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated.