Borrowed something from a friend...

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  1. waterfall

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    I borrowed a book from one of my work friends this summer. I distinctly remember giving it back to her on a day we went shopping together later in the summer. She just told me this week that she thought I still had it. I told her I'd given it back and even reminded her it was when we went shopping and she says I didn't. I even checked my entire apartment just to make sure I wasn't crazy or anything and I don't see it. I don't own any books (I frequent the library instead of buying them) so it couldn't have possibly "blended in" either. I'm 100% positive I gave it back to her. Would you just buy her a new one even knowing you didn't lose it? It's a hardback so it's about 15 dollars- I guess not that big of a deal but I'd be annoyed about spending money for something I'm absolutely sure I gave back to her.
     
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  3. JustMe

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    Nope...you gave it back.
     
  4. EMonkey

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    I would buy one for the friend. I do not borrow many things from people because of these confusions.
     
  5. Ms. I

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    I'm sure you returned it, but how about suggesting that you both search each of your apts/homes/cars w/ a fine tooth comb just in case & if she still can't find it, I guess go ahead & get her another. It's a good thing it's only $15.

    In Oct, a work colleague lent me a huge exam prep hardback & is letting me boorrow it for a FEW YRS. I hope when I finally return it, this doesn't happen to me! :)
     
  6. cutNglue

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    I would. The friendship is worth more than the $15 I would lose. Sometimes we (on either side) forget these things. It's not worth the hassle.
     
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    I think you should search her house with her. It's only 15 dollars, but I would still be annoyed.
     
  8. stargirl

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    I'm sure you did return it, but she sounds a little bit forgetful or disorganized--either way, you did borrow it from her so in her mind the onus is on you. I'd buy her another one (the $15 isn't worth the hard feelings it might engender, imo), but would plan on being careful not to borrow anything from her again.
     
  9. Emily Bronte

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    I am not sure if I would get her a new book. I would be annoyed for sure.
     
  10. Rebel1

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    NO WAY!
    You gave it back to her SO if she's a friend, like she claims to be, THEN your word is good enough. Make sure for future dealings with this particular friend that you make notes and date them for references.:help:
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  11. Ms. I

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    Rebel1 did make a very good point, especially if the book was a lot more expensive. I'm sure more pposters here have been saying to just buy another since it's ONLY $15. I'd make sure to have her sign things in/out from now on if each of you every borrow from each other again & I wouldn't be quick to do that.
     
  12. BettyRubble

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    Could you compromise and buy a used version for less? I don't think you should feel obligated to buy a new copy of the book for her, though.
     
  13. orangetea

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    This is a really good idea!
     
  14. MissScrimmage

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    Thankfully, my friendships are worth more than $15 to me. I would offer to look again, and casually recommend she do the same. If neither of us can find it, I would offer to buy the book to replace it. Luckily, most of my friends would not ask me to replace the book, but I would if it was going to be an issue.

    I sure would not start making my friends sign things in and out. Things get lost, and at the end of the day, they are things. Anything too valuable to get lost or broken doesn't get lent out.
     
  15. cutNglue

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    That!
     
  16. Ms. I

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    Yes, exactly what I said in post #4 at 1st (above). And true, no one should have to resort to signing things in & out like the library. I know I for one have enough other things to worry about.
     
  17. cutNglue

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    If I had a book that got passed around a lot, I might do a sign out thing in my desk. One such example was a teacher who had a really awesome math book that was great for studying for Praxis. Later I went back to ask for the title and he had lent it out so many times that he had no clue who had it. He really didn't mind but unfortunately he also didn't know the title of the book. Darn.

    Edit to add: Other than that, I wouldn't start a check out system among friends.
     
  18. SCTeachInTX

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    Buy the book. Life is too short and this will give you both piece of mind. Buy it used but in good condition. It might save you a few dollars but friendships are priceless.:hugs:
     

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