I'm having twins...due in May. Bf already has a kid with his ex. I don't really like being around her for many reasons. I certainly don't want to spend holidays with her. My family is very much into holidays, and always cooks a nice meal...and they are only 20 miles from me. His mom lives here, but is always off with one of her 100 boyfriends. He only sees his kid weekends, and has her holidays. Not due to court schedule...this was all decided between them. She and her mom live 30 miles away (next to his mom...yes...it's a very weird situation as she works with her too). He works 13 hours a day and it just works out better...but whatever. My family doesn't like him...at all...and don't care for his kid...who is a very spoiled brat. I WISH I could upload video of her tantrums...OMFG! They don't want them over for holidays at all. BF just sits around and won't watch his freakin' kid. blah blah... Anyway...I asked him today just what he expects to happen when my kids are born....b/c I am NOT spending every holiday with his ex! He said that I was making him choose, and that he would choose his current kid....wtf is up with that?! I didn't say he had to choose...just what he thought we were going to do. Please don't ask why I am with him...I don't feel like going into all of that right now. Just would like advice as to how you split holidays with your different families. It stresses me out thinking about it.