behavior problems at home, not at school.

Discussion in 'Preschool' started by leannwade, Feb 25, 2008.

  1. leannwade

    leannwade Rookie

    Joined:
    Jan 18, 2006
    Messages:
    46
    Likes Received:
    0

    Feb 25, 2008

    I have a student in my class who started the year off a little rough. He had a tendency to hit, bite, whatever. I put the fear in him one day, and he has been wonderful ever since. He is quiet, keeps his hands to himself, and overall he is very sweet! His mother, however, feels differently. She has nothing but problems with him at home. He argues with both his parents and gets violent with his mother. He won't listen to her and tells her she knows nothing. She called me today to let me know he will be staying with his grandparents for a little while, because she doesn't know what to do anymore. I feel terrible for her, because I do not see these behaviors at school. Any ideas?? I spoke with the sped teacher, and she is looking into a good psychologist or behavioral specialist. She says she has tried everything...rewards for positive behavior, time-outs, and even spankings. These things have not been working at home. Any ideas?!
    Thanks.:confused:
     
  2.  
  3. smalltowngal

    smalltowngal Multitudinous

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2007
    Messages:
    17,362
    Likes Received:
    46

    Feb 25, 2008

    Contact SuperNanny? :haha: I'm just kidding of course. What works for you? I'm sure you have shared your ideas with her. Is she being consistant with her time outs? Does she have time to play with him on his level? When he gets home, is there a schedule that he follows so he knows what to expect? These might be some things she needs to look at.
     
  4. moonbeamsinajar

    moonbeamsinajar Habitué

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2006
    Messages:
    954
    Likes Received:
    0

    Mar 1, 2008

    I often hear the same story, but I am not sure why. Many of my parents say that their child is awful at home, but I don't have any behavior problems at school. Some even have TSS workers, and then come to school and are fine without them. I think that the classroom is more structured, and I am more consistent than the home environment. Also, many of my families live in poverty, and have so many other issues, that there is not enough time or patience to deal with children appropriately, if at all. Sometimes the parents have unrealistic expectations about what a child of a certain age should be doing. There are so many reasons why this could be happening, and it definitely is very difficult to figure out.
     

Share This Page

Members Online Now

  1. YoungTeacherGuy,
  2. blazer
Total: 409 (members: 2, guests: 381, robots: 26)
test