I was watching one of the Courtroom TV shows the other day, I can't remember which one, The case involved a young man (under 21) who had a child out of wedlock, the Judge said the young man made a mistake, along with other blunders/poor choices, where upon young man got rather angry and was removed from the courtroom while saying "a child is not a mistake." Now this is IMHO: I feel the reaction was a smoke screen, by not letting people say it is a mistake (Getting pregnant) the parent(s) absolves the guilt or shame of having a child out of wedlock. Getting pregnant out of wedlock is the mistake and the baby in not a mistake, Apples and oranges. I am talking about having recreational/casual sex and both parties are ill prepared for parenthood; no meaningful relationship between the parents, poor income, no "home" of their own, etc. Again I stress the child is not the mistake, the choices made by the parents is the mistake. I do not think anyone who says, "You made a mistake" means the child. Now there are many who chose to be a single parent I understand that.