Are you close with your brothers and sisters?

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  1. chemnerd19

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    I have one brother, three years my elder. Him and I were the best of friends as kiddos, but as adults have morphed into very different people with absolutely nothing in common. I wish we were closer, but I really just can't seem to make that one happen.

    How about you folks? Are you very close with your siblings?
     
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    Yes, kind of the opposite of you and your brother... My brother and I were not very close while in middle/high school, but as we entered college and moved on to adult life, we've become very close. We hang out at least every couple of weeks. I have another, much younger, brother whom I'm not as close with, as he sees me more as a parent-figure than a sibling. I'm hoping that, as he grows up and becomes an adult, that will change.
     
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    Yes, even though my sister is 5 1/2 years younger than me.
     
  5. Danny'sNanny

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    My sister and I are getting closer now that she's an adult.
    My brothers are so much younger that, although I love them to bits, I can't picture us being friends any time soon.

    My husband and his brother are so close; I want that for my kids...
     
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    I'm very, very close to my two sisters. We are each about 18 months apart. We were close as kids, teenagers, and now as adults. I would rather spend time with my sisters than anyone else in the world.
     
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    My brother lives eight hours away so we only see each other five or six times a year. I'm closer to my SIL than my brother.
     
  8. Math

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    I'm close with 2 out of 3 siblings. I'm the youngest and my brother that is 11 months older than me are close. My eldest brother who is 6 years older than me he didn't grow up around the rest of us. So none of us are close to him like we are with each other. Plus his phone has been off for awhile. I have tried several different times to contact him. I plan on getting to know him a bit more. My sister is 12 years older than me and yes we are close as well. My siblings are like my best friends!
     
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    I've never had a close relationship with my brother. We are 13 months apart, too.

    My sister and I have always been very close. I don't see her often because she lives in North Carolina, but we talk/text/FaceTime regularly.
     
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    I have a half sister that I wouldn't know. I had to be introduced to her at Dad's funeral. We weren't raised together.
     
  11. chemteach55

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    I am an only child but was raised with my cousin and we are very close. I am also very close to my husband's sister and his brother's wife (SIL). I am glad that I have these people that I am close to but I absolutely loved being an only child.
     
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    I have one brother that was taken away by my father to raise when he was about 8. I don't know anything about him. I have another brother who was "taken away" from my family by his wife when he married 30+ years ago. I have not seen or heard from him in many years.

    I have another brother who I am very close to. We were the black sheep of the family growing up and I think that's why we have stayed close.
     
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    My sister is 3 yrs older than me and we are very different people. We aren't close, but I would do anything in the world for her, and if push came to shove she'd be there for me.
     
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    I have a brother who is 18 months younger than me. We were very close growing up and all through high school. He changed in many ways when he went off to college, and I moved 8 hours away for my job, so we grew apart. We are just very different people now, with very different lifestyles. However, we do enjoy hanging out at holidays, and we try to go to a baseball game every summer. He has matured the last few years, and that's made it better (he used to be very argumentative and want to debate things all the time, which was not fun).

    My sister is 5 years younger than me. We've gone through different levels of closeness over the years. She still sees me as 'mothering' sometimes, which I try very hard not to do, and she's jealous of a lot of things in my life. We were really getting along well for a stretch, and then I got engaged. Seeing as I hardly ever dated and she's had serious boyfriends for a couple years at a time since high school, I know she thought that she was going to get to do that before me. She thinks I 'stole' that from her, and that has made the last year strained at time. she's being ridiculous, but there's no way to make her realize that...
     
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    This is so true!
     
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    I have 2 sisters and we are all close; much closer than we ever in high school. We all live in different provinces so we have to make an effort. I am closer to my 1 sister now that she has kids and I can be a apart of their lives. Having cell phones has definitely made us closer because we can send of quick texts and stay in more constant communication. Also, Face Time has done wonders.
     
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    I'm 4 years older then my brother. We've never been close. It got really bad after he made some racial remarks one Christmas. I don't really like his wife. In fact I've blocked her on facebook.

    It's gotten better, I just try to ignore his racial comments, her drinking, their letting their son do whatever. Their daughter is turning out well though.
     
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    My sister and I were not close until we were both adults. Now we get together whenever possible and talk/text all the time.
     
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    Not really, but then my brother is over 10 years older than me. (so when I was in third grade, he was already living two states away in college). He always felt more like a "cool, young Uncle" (like Uncle Jesse from Full House) than my brother/peer.

    Now that I'm older, we hardly ever talk because he works night and lives about an hour away. My mom often says she wishes we were closer because someday she and my Dad will be gone and all my brother and I will have left is each other in terms of our family.

    I think unless the siblings living near each other and their lives are still in sync they'll grow apart. It's the same with friends. Most of the girls I felt close with growing up, unless they're in a similar place as me, we hardly ever talk or hang out.

    My husband and his brother are only a couple years apart and they hung out and were best friends until college. His brother went to the local college in their small town (and was still close to my husband). Then my husband moved a few hours away to attend a different college.

    Husband finished his degree, moved even further away for a job(career), got his own place, met and married an amazing woman :rolleyes:, has a decent car and is working on purchasing a home.

    His brother on the other hand didn't finish his degree, still lives at home, doesn't have a car, or girlfriend, gained about 200 lbs, and has trouble keeping a job.

    I don't feel husband thinks he's better than brother or that brother is jealous/resentful of husband, but they just don't have much in common anymore except that their past, which both are further and further removed from as they get older. :2cents:
     
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    I'm an only child (& like it), but I'll discuss my BF's siblings. He's an identical twin & also has a younger brother & sister. He's definitely the black sheep of his family. They have a totally different personality from him: Smug, entitled, etc. His family has quite a few get togethers, which he goes to many. He can spend all day with them & laugh & talk away, but they don't talk on the phone everyday or anything. He's the closest with his younger brother, who he spends a few days at his place every couple mos.
     
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    I'm not that close with my brother. He's 16 months older. We always got along fine as children but weren't really close then either. We see each other a few times per year and my children adore him, but even when we're together we just really have small talk, not any serious conversations.
     
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    My sister is 5 years older than me. We were close growing up and still remain close. I consider her one of my best friends. We have lived in different states for 7 years but we visit each other often and talk all the time.
     
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    My brother and I are nearly 7 years apart. We were close when he was in his elementary years, mainly because our Mom was not there for either one of us. Then when I was 19 my parents had another baby. My sister and I are very close. CLose like mother daughter. Again because I raised my sister like she was my own. In fact my sister and my daughter are only 3 years apart. My daughter, sister and I are very close!!!
    My brother are not close now because he has a deviant for a wife. She won't even let him answer his own phone. Every call make to him she intercepts and I don't get to talk to him but a few minutes.
     
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    I have an older sister who is 1.5 years older, and a younger brother who is 2 years younger.

    We used to be really close. But I've been in Costa Rica for three years, my sister now lives in Germany, and my brother in the USA. It's harder to stay in touch. When we all get together, we still have a great time. But we're certainly not as close as we were when we all lived in the same city.
     
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    My half-brother is 8 years older than me and my half-sister is 7 years older than me. I'm closer to my sister, but even then we aren't as close as most siblings. Though I know if it came down to it we would do anything for each other.
     
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    I'm the youngest of 7, and there are 20 years between the oldest and myself. That being said I am fairly close to most of my siblings. There is one brother and one sister that I talk to every once in a while. There is no particular reason except that they are both home bodies and really don't come out when we both get together.
     
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    My sister is my bff.

    I have a brother who lives a few states away. But I visit once a year (generally in the summer so for a couple of weeks to a month) and we talk quite a bit. I talk to my sis-in-law more though.

    And I have another brother that I haven't spoken to in 15 years.
     
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    My sisters are 12 and 15 years older than me. My middle sister, K, is my best friend. We were not close at all due to the age difference growing up-she was more my aunt-but once I grew up and became an adult so to speak, we became really close. We do everything together-vacations, shopping, everything. We don’t go more than a day without talking on the phone.

    My other sister, T-le sigh. She has made some really difficult life decisions, and in fact we just had a sort of intervention with her-but it did no good. Her words say she wants to be part of the family, but her actions say otherwise. It’s sad, because I absolutely idolized her growing up-she was beautiful, had glamorous jobs, and always had something fun to do. She took me to Van Halen at age 12! K was always kinda jealous of our relationship because she had a baby at home, and T was always taking me places and buying me stuff, and I loved to be with T-I felt like K was just another mother.

    Eventually, I figured out that there wasn’t much behind all those trips and gifts, and T took her life down a path with an abusive alcoholic boyfriend (still with him, 20+) years later. The glamorous jobs are gone, and the fun lifestyle is a thing of the past. Now she spends her days Facebook stalking K and I and wishing she could be “one of us”-which she could, if she would just accept the help we’ve offered, and drop the lump of a boyfriend, but she hangs on…and we wait.
     
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    No and No. I have 2 older sisters (1 year and 1 day apart)and they were best friends as kids. They aren't as close anymore but a lot closer than I am to either of them. One married this possessive guy and I couldn't talk to her on the phone without him being beside her telling her to get off the phone.
     

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