Finally got to court to get child support straightened out after 3 years. I was so overwhelmed that I didn't think of an important point about a decision that was made by the judge. Background: My child is with me 100% of the time. Her father NEVER visits her/takes her even though I've been very open about it. Custody is NOT established through the court. According to the courts, he is 44% responsible for the costs of supporting our daughter and I am 56% responsible. I have NOT signed any agreements. Child support was established BUT the judge said that we have to share the deduction on our taxes. I thought (among other reasons) that the child HAS to live with the parent claiming the child as a dependent for at least 6 mos out of the year. I also was told that the parent claiming the child has to be the one who supports the child the most. How can the judge demand of me to violate federal laws regarding taxes? Should I appeal or is there something that I'm not quite understanding?