I had a heart to heart today with my newest teacher in my department. She is a lesbian - I have known this for awhile since I knew her before she was hired. Only 2-3 other teachers in the school know this even though she student taught with me last year as well. She has always been a very "out" person since she discovered her sexuality. She has never hidden it from anyone, but she decided last year as she started her career and was student teaching that she should probably keep it to herself. Now she is worried about coming out because she isn't sure she will have the full support of the administration and parents. In addition to the normal frustrations and struggles of any first year teacher, she is having a hard time fitting in with some of the other teachers. Today she told me she stopped eating lunch with other teachers and started eating in her room, because all people talk about are their personal lives at lunch and she feels left out or that she has to lie. She can't talk about her girlfriend when everyone else talks about their significant others. She also feels a little like a sell-out in front of the students. She wants to model an open and tolerant lifestyle, but she has to lie when kids ask her questions. And for the record, she is not all about talking about her personal life with the kids, but we all know they ask questions. If my kids ask me what I did for the weekend, I don't hesitate to say that I went to the movies with my boyfriend, but she can't say that. I just want to help her. She finally broke down in tears today. She wants to know she has the full support of the administration before she starts coming out, but she doesn't feel like some of them would be very supportive. I suggested she talk to one administrator that I am sure would be very supportive and see what he says, and that I would go with her if she wanted. Any other advice I can pass along? Any books or resources I can point out to her? Thanks so much!