Annulment

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  1. teacherintexas

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    My husband looked up how to get an annulment online.

    I quit my job to move here. His workers are the ones who caused me to fall four feet to the dirt and break three bones and not walk for at least four months.

    So if he wants an annulment/divorce, I will be without a job, and without the ability to get one for a few months.

    Please pray for me.
     
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  3. teacherintexas

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    We were married June 27th.
     
  4. TeacherGroupie

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    My sympathies, teacherintexas. Does he know you know that he looked this up? Is this consistent with his behavior toward you since the wedding?
     
  5. MrsC

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    I'm so sorry, teacherintexas.
     
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    :hugs: teacherintexas! I am so very sorry :(. Prayers to you and hoping that your husband shares his worries with you.
     
  7. tb71

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    I'm so sorry to hear this.
    As far as I know--you can't get alimony in Texas, my friend paid is wife spousal support for a specified number of years (I'm not sure how this differs from alimony other the time period, I think alimony is on going until you get remarried).
    My prayers are with you.
     
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    In addition to prayer, I hope you are seeking marriage counseling and a lawyer.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear, Teacher in Texas. My thoughts and prayers.

    Were you married June 27th of this year?
     
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    Oh my goodness...I'm so sorry to hear that. You're going through a lot right now but there is help out there. Do you have family or friends nearby who you can rely on for a little while you are recovering?



    Are you sure it was out of his curiosity and not for a friend, etc?
     
  11. Jem

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    Oh no. This is so sad!! Dh said maybe he was just curious and looking it up? Maybe he didn't mean it for himself??

    Let's hope. Please keep us updated-you are in our prayers.
     
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    Oh, how awful. Maybe it's just his reaction to the stress of it all. I hope so, because you can work that out. Please see a counselor. My heart goes out to you.
     
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    I'm so sorry.
     
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    I am so sorry! I am hoping he was looking it up for a friend! Have you asked him about it?
     
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    He said he was looking it up for a friend of ours who got married last week. He isn't a lawyer but has written briefs and contracts for others so it is not totally unlikely that this friend asked for legal advice. He has done a lot of legal work for other veterans so they can represent themselves.

    I'm going to believe him, but time will tell.
     
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    TeacherinTexas,
    what else has you thinking that this annulment search was for you two to begin with? Are things not going well?
    :hugs:
     
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    I'm so sorry- I'll keep you in my prayers.
     
  18. Tasha

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    I will pray that you and your new husband will get through these difficult times. Even if he was looking it up for a friend, you feeling that it might be a possibility is enough to show that you are concerned. I hope you go ahead and seek counseling to make sure things get off to a great start.
     
  19. teacherintexas

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    Things are going well between us but he does have a lot on his plate right now.

    He is stressed out though from financial troubles his ex-wife caused when she took a loan against the mortgage a few days before their divorce was final and never repaid, started a new job, and when it looked like I might lose my leg, he was extremely worried about me.
     
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    Dearest Friend,

    I can understand your worries and concerns.

    Echoing the above posters, counseling is a wonderful tool.

    I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.

    Love. :)
     
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    TeacherinTexas, PM me if you want to talk. My (ex)husband and I were married in May of 2008, and I caught him cheating on me in October 2008. We were officially divorced in March.

    :(

    Let me know if you need to chat.
     
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    If you were just married in June... if you attend a church...maybe you can find a older couple (have one assigned to you) that can mentor your marriage. My ex and I never had that...though I wanted counseling for a long while, he only agreed ot it when it was too late.

    After he left I started to get counseling in a number of issues we had problems with...and I am POSITIVE that it would have helped us.
     

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