Am I the only one who doesn't like Christmas?

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  1. Pisces_Fish

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    It's not that I hate it, but I really am not into it. I don't decorate, I don't do Christmasy things (very much) in my classroom, and I don;t enjoy Christmas shopping or even getting gifts. The extra traffic, all the money I'm expected to spend, the hours I lose at my other job going to the school's Christmas party....I feel like a grinch! ;)

    I think it's mostly because my parents divorced a few years ago, and since then 2 grandparents and several aunts and uncles have passed away...it's just not the same. Plus I live 650 miles from home, so my visits are short for the holidays. But this year I won't be going home at all because I'm trying to save money and move out of my place into something a little nicer.

    Am I alone, or are there others that feel a little blase about the holidays?
     
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    I've never been into Christmas, especially in years like this when I cannot afford to give gifts (which I enjoy more than receiving on any day). The commercialism of what should be a sacred day (which is not part of my own religion) makes me sad and annoyed at once. You aren't alone.
     
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    I adore it. But, hey, that's me.

    You have two choices:
    a) You can decide that Christmas isn't your thing, and go with it. Just as not everyone in the world has to love chocolate, not everyone has to love Christmas. Lots and lots and lots of Americans and people across the world don't celebrate Christmas. There's no reason you have to do any more than you choose.

    b) You can choose to dig deeper for some enjoyment from Christmas. Most people say that the secret to finding the "meaning in Christmas" is to volunteer. In this economy, there are certainly enough people in need.
     
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    My sentiments exactly. While I am personally not religious, it saddens me how much many people have lost sight of the real reason we celebrate it.
     
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    Pisces_Fish, forget about Christmas....... You don't have to participate in the shopping frenzy...... I know I don't.

    Get out of the house and enjoy yourself. Life can be so good if you take a Just Do It attitude......... :hugs::hugs:
     
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    The cards, the shopping, the decorations, the huge amounts of food can really take a toll on you. I don't like all of that but I still like THE HOLIDAY OF Christmas, if that makes any sense. I enjoy visiting relatives I havn't seen in a while. So what if there are no presents? Are they going to disown you or just be glad that you're there. I have a feeling they will be happy to see you regardless of what you bring them. It is sad that most people talk only about presents. Don't give into it all and I bet you will learn to enjoy the holiday!
     
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    Christmas is just what you make it. I love shopping for others so I don't mind that part, and the music/decorations make me feel warm and fuzzy. But I also love being able to do for others who would go without - "adopting" a family and buying gifts for them, etc. Christmas Eve service at church is also magical to me and I just love spending time with my family. So while I do enjoy the gift-giving part, it's the other parts that mean more.
     
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    My husband isn't that all into it but he tries not to complain:)
     
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    LOL Mine says he isn't into it but he's the one who dragged out the Christmas tree last weekend and put on the music so we could decorate early!
     
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    I personally LOVE Christmas, it's my favorite holiday!

    Pisces Fish, why don't you go out of town at Christmastime, so when you return, it's all over?
     
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    Pisces , find ways to simplify and find the peace and joy of the season...after our Thanksgiving onslaught, I'm looking forward to NOT feeling frenzied and pressured...I'm just not going there. What matters most to me is my family...and I mean to optimize my quality family time this season and resolve not to let the 'other stuff' in...sometimes easier said than done, but this past weekend reminded everyone in my house about what (and who) really matters. Reach out to good friends, Pisces, or volunteer, or just find some quiet time for yourself to relax and rejuvenate. Let go of what doesn't really matter.
     
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    Nope you're not alone. I don't decorate myself. Call me a Scrooge, but what I see is--we kill probably millions of evergreen trees-to throw them away a month later. Waste huge amounts of electricity to run lights to compete with our neighbors. And it does become about what people want to get (especially with the kids), rather than the true meaning of the season. I feel badly for people with big families to shop for, because some are literally paying for Christmas for 6 months afterwards on their credit cards.

    Feeling particularly out of the loop this year-I think people often forget not everyone has big families to celebrate with. No plans for Thanksgiving (it's just my parents and I here and I see them several times a month) and our Christmas this year is going to be about 2 weeks early the night my mom and sister come home from a 2 week trip to Europe-can we say jet lag? My sister lives out of state and doesn't want to fly back again a few weeks later, which I understand. We're not even wrapping presents this year to make the unwrapping part go faster. I plan to just really veg out on those 2 weeks vacation and stay away from all sales on things I don't even really need anyway. Bah humbug!
     
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    Just my :2cents:, but maybe a reading of the Gospels would help? Or at least read 'A Christmas Carol', or watch 'It's A Wonderful Life'.:)
     
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    I'm feeling like a bit of a Grinch this year myself. I'm just not into it this year. I did buy some new ornaments this year, though I don't think I'm going to put up a tree, since we're travelling for Christmas. I'd want to take it down before we left so that the house sitter doesn't have to deal with it with the dogs and the cats. Therefore, we aren't having our usual Christmas party. So I'm having a hard time getting in the spirit this year...
     
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    I was not into Christmas until I had kids. Their excitement over all the tiny details gets me going. That said, I do not mortgage Christmas, buy only what we can afford, and have lots of goofy fun.
    That is - I did like it until I could not get the last of lights to light upon the tree. Now I am loathing the tree and all the work! (It is a pre-lit artificial tree and i have spent over an hour trying to figure out this unlit strand!) ACCCKKK!!!
    Deep calming breaths...it is only lights... :mellow:
     
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    I love the season, the holiday, and the togetherness that it brings. Of course, my "ideal" Christmas hasn't always existed or been realistic either.....but you often have to let go of "ideals" and remember that life is what we make of it......it is the spirit of the season that truly matters and there is always a way to feel the spirit whether it be volunteering, giving to others, or anything else your heart desires.
     
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    We're not really religous either, but we enjoy the pagan aspects of the holiday.

    I'm trying to talk my hubby into purchasing a fake tree because I also do not agree with the murdering of thousands of trees. :( My hubby's side of the family does secret santa (well, it's not very secret) so that we can save money. We all just buy gifts for the kids. My side is small so that's easy and we get each other useful things for the house (and some silly things). We do put lights up, but we keep it simple and pretty and classic.

    One of my fave thing to do is walk around the neighborhood and look at the lights (two houses nearby do the light with music show) and then drink hot cocoa afterwards. :) I also love getting out the lego train set for the tree and setting it up every year (you have to build it! :D)

    I also like just sitting in the room with just the tree lights on.

    I also look forward to winter break!

    And ice skating in Yosemite.
     
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    I absolutely love it. Some years I love it more so than others, but I always look forward to it tremendously. But I do have a wonderful family/husband and we're all healthy and really close, so that helps and makes it mean so much more to me.

    I haven't bought anyone a Christmas gift in probably 10 years. My husband and I don't exchange gifts, money is tight, so the gift aspect doesn't impact me. But when we're financially able, I still don't see us buying many gifts.
     
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    Working two Christmas's at Macy's killed it for me.
     
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    True, true. When my kids were young; we didn't celebrate it crazy-wise. We did buy them gifts and we did go to family Christmas functions to be with family though.
    Too much commercialism and yes, many have lost sight of what I feel is the true meaning of Christmas. That being said; my kids are older and we have been doing a tree for a few years now. Sometimes we don't put it up; but they want one; so we do.
     
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    We do need less commercialism.......
     
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    I adore Christmas. It is the one holiday I go all out for! I believe in the religious aspects of the holiday, so it does hold sacred meaning for me. I also enjoy getting together with family and friends. Buying gifts for others is the way I care for people, so this holiday it right up my alley! It's a nice time to re-connect and celebrate.
     
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    December can be lonely and somber when you do not feel a need to get into the spirit.

    One year I was far from home and would not be celebrating. What did I do?

    1. Attended advent services. It helped me stay focused on me.
    2. Spent a weekend going thru closets.
    3. Spent another weekend ripping off wall paper and then painting.
    4. On the holiday, I volunteered, and grabbed a good book and rented a few video games.

    In other words, I avoided seeing what I was missing.
     
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    Rabbit,

    I like this!

    "In other words, I avoided seeing what I was missing. ":thumb:
     
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    I don't care for all the stress of the holiday. So, I take control and decide what to do and what not to do. This year, I did not spend money on gifts. I sent for free samples and free items, so everyone will get a gift basket of free items. I will also give them money.

    I also give myself permission not to bake goodies like I used to.
     
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    You know, as much as I feel kinda "whatever" about the season, I know that a Christmas tree would really boost my spirits :) Growing up, it was my favorite part of the holiday - even more than presents, really, because I grew up pretty poor, and our focus was always on the tree and not the gifts. I have such fond memories about sitting with my family on Christmas Eve and watching the roaring fire in the fireplace by the tree...SOMEDAY I won't live alone and I'll have someone to share a tree and a fireplace with :)
     
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    Pisces, a lot of people are living with someone else, but are still alone.

    Go out and get yourself a tree. (I don't care if it's too early. If this one dies in 2 weeks, replace it. Or splurge on a gorgeous artificial.) If that's what's important to you, then that's what you indulge in.

    Then find some great Christmas music, and a bottle of good wine. Treat yourself to half an hour a night with the tree, the music, and a glass of wine-- schedule it in so it doesn't get lost in the craziness.
     
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    I don't care much for all the hassles either but enjoy being off & on the times I have the opportunity to travel, visit family & friends.
     
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    Christmas is for kids and Kids that never grew up.
    I decorate for my kids. They love the lights and
    characters. The look in their eyes when we see
    great yards or houses does it for me. I also mourn the
    losses I have had about Christmas and past family dynamics.
    Too me it is a mindset. Working with little kids all the time
    keeps me engaged with their child like outlook on the world
    and holidays. I love it when I see something perfect for
    someone close and can surprise them with it.
    To Pisces Fish :hugs:
     
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    I love the holidays. Seems to me, in general, lots of people are in a happier mood. Do as little or as much as you like. It helps me to get an earlier start, so I am not as stressed as Christmas gets close.
     
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    I'm the opposite. I've NEVER lived alone in my life & am dying to! My family isn't that big & I love to travel, so if it were up to me, I'd travel somewhere on MOST Thanksgivings & Christmases.
     
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    Don't listen to the police / ambulance scanner this time of year if you're depressed. We're hearing at least three suicide attempts a week. If previous years are any indication, it will jump to one or two daily.

    It's a rough time of year for a lot of people.
     
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    I love the decorating, but I have to say that Christmas is a mixed bag. We have our lovely childhood memories of such a special time, then being grown ups, it is really a lot of hard work to make it happen!

    I agree with what others have said. Don't put pressure on yourself. Try to do some things that you do enjoy, and set your own traditions/pace. Don't be forced into someone else's dream of what Christmas should be. Let it be a time of peacefulness for you. It is very hard to set your limits because of all the pressure. We made a decision to make Christmas very simple in our family. Even some of our closest friends think we are cheapskates because we only give a couple of special gifts to our kids - we have taught them that material things are not the important things in life, and I have to say, they are adults now and have internalized that attitude. We also do not ever go into debt for Christmas. We keep it simple.
     
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    Normally, I love this time of the year. As a matter of fact, I have been looking foward to it all year. It is now here, and I am in no mood. My husband hasn't had a job in months now, unemployment isn't enough, and there are so many things that I have to buy. As of right now we don't know what to do about our dinner, we have money, but not enough to buy groceries. Its depressing all on its own. We just had an argument about our stupid cell phone bill that went up A LOT, because we added my nephew and sister. They are going to help, but somehow it still seems like a lot. Even with me working 2 jobs, I feel like I need more time before this holiday season begins..
     
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    This seems to be an ongoing problem for many..... Too bad Xmas can't move just a bit away from commercialism... For me Xmas is not about shopping, buying, wrapping gifts, etc...... all done in a frenzy...... Relax sweetlatina23..... enjoy time with your husband...:hugs:
     
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    I'm sorry you're struggling.

    Start a new tradition for Christmas dinner. Pasta is cheap-- how about linguini and clam sauce? Throw in some Italian bread and a bottle of wine, and dinner for 2 costs less than $10. Lose the bottle of wine and serve soda, and we're talking $4.

    Of course, you serve it on your best china with a tablecloth and linen napkins, with candlelight and Christmas Carols playing in the background. The beverage, whatever it is, is served in your best glasses.

    It's hard, but Christmas is more about mood than money.
     
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    THanks, that is a very nice idea. I am sure we have a wine that hasn't been opened. We are going to put the Christmas tree up tonight, so hopefully that will lift up our spirits, even a little.

    Thanks!
     
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    There you go! Its' about the feeling, not the gifts. Put up that tree, put on the music and snuggle with hubby and enjoy the wine.
     
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    Personally, I love Christmas. I love the meaning (it is a part of my faith). I love the better parts of mankind that shine at this time of year. I love mostly everything.

    However, I will agree that commercialism ruins many things if we let it. (ie Baseball is more a business than a sport, Valentine's Day is a pressure day for someone to prove their love for their sweetie via a gift. ) There is virtually no holiday untouched by commercialism. However, it us up to me to find the joy in baseball or Valentine's Day or Christmas without the expectations of others. (For example, people say romance is a certain list of things. For me, my husband has taken out the trash and carried all of my school stuff every day of our marriage. That is more romantic than a fireplace any day. We find our romance and joys in things that appeal to us as a unique couple.)

    I hope you find your own personal joys in the place where you are with the things that you have.

    I wish everyone peace, love and joy throughout the season.:hugs:
     

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