Just got an invite today to a bridal shower. I contacted the bride to see where she was registered and mentioned that I was excited about her shower. Then I got a nasty email from the Maid of Honor telling me that it was supposed to be a surprise "as most bridal showers are" and that I was not to contact the bride anymore. I spoiled her surprise. The invitation did not say surprise or secret or shh anywhere. I'm from NC and I've never heard of a surprise shower before and I just got married last year!!!!! The bride is not mad and said to the MOH that she should have said it was a surprise on the invite. Am I dumb? Is it just an NC thing to let the bride know about the shower. I feel so bad that I ruined the surprise but part of me wants to shake the MOH and tell her to get some common sense! If a party is a surprise, you need to let the guests know!