Ok, background.... My husband's cousin has been like a surrogate father to my hubby. The cousin, "Bart" has never been well off, living paycheck to paycheck. He got in an accident and lost his job so he earned money by building rustic furniture and garage selling/flea market stuff. The money he got from his accident settlement was given to his step children (4) for their various and sundry needs. A few years ago they almost lost their house. My hubby and I got a loan to help them out. They were paying us back $100 a month. They have paid about 3,000 leaving about 2,000. Bart had an old truck that was barely running, but it was his only transportation. My dh bought the truck from him, and put lots of money into it to get it running--new tires, new engine......Then he loaned it to Bart so that they would be able to earn money. Bart drove that truck into the ground and needed a new vehicle. My dh talked his friend into selling a pretty decent car to Bart at a loss so that they would have a car. Bart unfortunately died. He had an absessed tooth and the infection spread through his weakened body. It was devestating for us and especially my dh. We paid half the cost of the funeral and paid for half of the memorial. My dh and I have pretty much resigned ourselves to the fact that we won't be getting that $2000 back. Just last week we got an email from Bart's widow's daughter in law saying that Bart's widow, "Janice" was in tears because she was almost out of wood and didn't know how she would stay warm this winter so my dh arranged for a gift of a cord of wood and got another cousin to agree to cut a cord for her. We just can't get the wood to her so we suggested that one of her four kids get the wood to her. Guess what??? No one is willing to because they would have to spend $100 to get plywood to reinforce the trailer, plus gas is so high and yada yada yada.....They want us to get the wood to her--a three hour drive and I work and my dh works two jobs and we have three kids. Janice has four kids!!!!! The obituary mentions how much the step kids loved Bart...my dh or his side of the family wasn't mentioned in the obit at all. Am I being petty in thinking that the "beloved" step kids need to STEP UP and take care of THEIR mother!!!!!!!??????? Thanks for letting me rant!