Always asking to go see the nurse

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  1. Carolyn

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    I have one student, actually two, who ALWAYS says they need to go see the nurse. I thought if I made them wait until recess time to go see her, they wouldn't really want to go. But one of my students will wait on the nurse during the entire recess just to see her! There is always something wrong with this one student. From a mosiquito bite to "my stomach hurts." Is this a sign of something that I need to be aware of? Or is this a case of hypocondriac?
     
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    this is a case of avoiding. All kids do this. You have to be firm and depending on the age of the children set some type of guidelines as to when to see the nurse. Some kids will make a habit out of it, just like getting a drink, or going to the bathroom.

    They are testing you. Use your judgement and be firm and fair.
     
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    Sometimes I think they just want attention. When my students come up and say, "I have a headache" or bellyache or whatever, I usually just reply with a sincere "I'm sorry". If it's not a serious issue the student almost always just walk away. I keep an eye on them, and if they come up to me again or look like they are suffering I will talk to them again and then send them to the nurse. This has been the best way I've found to weed out the chronic complainers.
     
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    Oh, I forgot with my k-1 students if they get a bump or complain of something small like a hangnail or mosquito bite, I act silly & dramatically say, "OH NO!, are you going to be okay...should I call the ambulance." I don't say it sarcastically...just silly and the kids always laugh, and say "no". Then we go on with class and the problem is forgotten about.
     
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    I do the same as you, Musicteach, and it almost always gets a laugh or at least a giggle. I had one "frequent flyer" a few years ago. The requests to go to the nurse for general "I don't feel good" type complaints got so numerous that I made up a "Red Cross Card," an index card with a big red cross on it. The card was a ticket to the nurse's office(for any of those questionable complaints).Once it was used up, he couldn't have it back until the next. day. It worked well as the frequent visits had gotten to be a bad habit. Eventually, the child stopped asking. At the same time, I did all I could to make the child feel comfortable and safe within the classroom environment--just doling out a little extra TLC never hurts!
     
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    Unless their bleeding, running fever or have some other emergency I do not send them to the nurse. If they complain with some sort of ailment then I tell them to put their head down for a couple of minutes or try going to the bathroom. They usually forget about it. As soon as they know you will give them attention then they take full advantage of it.:eek:
     
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    Carolyn, how old are your kids?
     
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    I have first graders. These two students I'm talking about ALWAYS find something to go to the nurse for. I'm concerned because I once heard children who are hypocondriac-like could is possibly being abused some way. Has anyone ever heard that?
     
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    It's a little funny because some other classrooms in our elementary school DO take the kids for every little thing. I tell them that is something I can take care of in the classroom (if minor). They complain and insist on the nurse and last year I held up my red cross first aid card (they didn't believe me at first). I told them I've been given special permission to take care of thier first aide problems. HAHAHA! It worked. They accept it now if I tell them I'm not taking them to the infirmary. Another interesting thing is I watch what the infirmary does and copy some of their techniques. Many minor things they a wet folded up papertowel in a ziplock baggie and that's their 'minor ice pack' and kids get their special treatment without leaving the classroom. Really though I try to avoid it as much as possible to discourage "avoiding" in this way. We also had to change how we allow bathrooms and water breaks too because it was the same classic issue. One student of ours always says she is tired, or gives this mopey face. It's sad. I'm not sure why she isn't happy like the other students. She's the one I had to nip in the bud with infirmary this year.
     
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    I think once you know your children better you will be able to distinguish who really needs the nurse and who doesn't.

    As far as abuse, there are other signs too.
     
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    I don't know much about hypochondria, but from my observations, those children who frequently ask to see the nurse seem to be lacking attention at home. Or else their parents neglect them in some way.Sometimes I see this in the children of very young parents who are so involved in their own lives (boyfirends, partying, etc.), their children have to "bring themselves up" in many ways. Sometimes I see those little guys as being very "needy." That's why I say a little extra TLC in the classroom can't hurt.
     
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    Oops, I don't mean to imply that all children who like to go to the nurse are neglected. I've just seen it in some.
     
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    Could you possibly have the nurse speak to them about the danger of "crying wolf"???
     
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    I teach at a middle school and I actually got lectured for not letting a kid go to the nurse. I had already let him go earlier in the day (I have him for 2 periods) when I saw him the 2nd time he asked to go again. It became a big ordeal and eventually I had to write him a referral for continually disrupting the class.

    After I sent him to the office the Asst. principal scolded me for not allowing him to go to the nurse again. She said I had to send every kid that asked even if it was every day. Does anyone else see something wrong with this?
     
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    I teach second grade and looped with my students this year. I too have the "frequent flyers" who ask on a daily basis. I usually have them put their head down or do the dramatic scene with them. Also, I tell the kids that if they are bleeding, vomiting, on fire, or dying...that would be a good time to go to the nurse. They always find this particularly funny especially when they come to me during work time and I ask them where the smoke is.
     
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    Love it! A little humor can go a long way! I think it's ridiculous to be expected to send every child who wants to go to the nurse every time. It doesn't take long to be a pretty good judge of who is really sick and who just wants to take a walk. It would take my first graders about 2 seconds to figure out the fact that I was letting everyone who asked get out of the room for a few minutes. And I don't think the nurse would appreciate a parade of students with minor aches and pains coming to her each day. Our nurses also have paperwork, teaching and students with serious medical needs that need to be seen every day. Come on!
     
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    I agree that you shouldn't send every child to the nurse that asks to go, especially if they ask everyday. But sometimes it's hard to tell if a child really doesn't feel well. A few years ago a 1st grader asked to go to the nurse and/or the bathroom everyday (sometimes 2 to 3 times a day) and said she had a stomach-ache. She looked and acted healthy. The teacher never contacted the parents, assumed she was seeking attention and told the little girl that "no-one gets that many stomach-aches". The child's parents and dr. were aware of the pains which occurred each night but didn't know they also happened at school. After a few years and many medical tests and visits to specialists, she was diagnosed with chronic illness. It is real and quite painful. Although this is rare, it does happen. My suggestion is to call the parents to let them know and to ask their opinion. They know their child best. (P.S. This child is my daughter.)
     

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