I know I have not been on here in awhile. I have posted some things here and there but not a real active member.
I'm so very sorry to hear what a rough time you've been having. Good thoughts coming your way. May that black cloud blow out to sea!
Awwww.....we've missed you, and I hate hearing that you have had such a hard time. Hang out with us. Maybe we will say something to help you feel better--well, we'll try!
Sometimes it is no one major thing that is the problem, just that a lot of little things happen at the same time and add up to an overload of stress. Try and find some time to get away and do something not related to any of it and get sleep so you are better equipped to deal with it all.
Hope things get better soon. Put positive notes on your refrigerator or other prominent places in your home. Think of something that you're looking forward to. Sometimes things get so heavy you can't see your way out of it. Big hugs and prayers.
VA...maybe you need someone to talk to. If you can't see thru this, a therapist may help get you thru. Please consider this. Sending you
VA...please feel comforted by all the virtual love, support and hugs we are sending you. Please reach out....by PM to one of us, a friend or family member, and please call a therapist first thing in the morning.
I'm worried about my own self. I came here because I have no one. I'm all alone. Seriously. I hate me and I hate my life.
You do have us...we may be on the computer but we are real people and we care. We are worried about you too. What can we do to help you?
Whatever is going on in your life right now will seem really big because it's happening to you but you can't be so hard on yourself. We've all been in situations we wish we could undo or redo. IT's part of being human but don't say you hate yourself or don't want to be here. That's very worrisome. Please reach out and let others help you. We all need help once in a while.
WindyCity-I'm sorry but its true. i'm sick of crying myself to sleep. I have no one in my life. I'm all alone. Seriously I'm all alone.
I sent you a pm. I'm a bereaved mother/widow so I can certainly understand the emptiness of being alone. Let us help you. We can't wave a magic wand and instantly make things better, but there are a lot people here who would love to do anything we can to make you feel better.
Have you a clergyman you can talk with? This is what I did during the darkest period of my life, and it was not a magic wand, but it helped. God bless you, my dear.
Please talk to someone... We are all hear to support you as well!!! We may not be right there... but we are "here" a few clicks away!!!
Thanks everyone. With all the pms I got I know you guys care. I just need to cry myself to sleep like I've been doing. Someone once told me that you can give yourself some time to cry and then you have to pick a date where its done. No more feeling sorry for yourself. I wonder if I can make tomorrow that date.
I can also suggest making a plan to deal with the things going on, the plan might change, but just having an idea of what you are going to do and starting to do it will make you feel better.
Thanks. I'm done crying for now. Until I turn this computer off and get into bed. I still can't eat or sleep.
Here's the deal. You need to seriously evaluate things. Is it your professional life causing you to feel stressed, overwhelmed and upset? Is it your personal life causing you the most grief? I hear both from you on these boards. Sometimes I'm not sure you even know yourself what is really bothering you. Thus I suspect cumulative stress and life out of balance. You probably don't have the luxury of changing things overnight but if you subscribe to the change one theory, then you can pick something about your life that you CAN change. Take control. Do something different. Get out of whatever rut you are in. Be dramatic about it. You may have to step out of your comfort zone to do it. It is likely you will have to do so. If things aren't working though, you have to make changes. Once you've started, you can start other changes in increments. Beyond that you also need to think about whether or not you may need professional help. Many of us have needed that at one point in our lives. Reaching out and asking for help is the sign of courage. So get out a gallon of ice-cream and cry if you must but then pick up and make an appointment today to be seen professionally. Then make a good long reflective lists of both what IS working in your life and what isn't. Look for patterns. Don't dwell on specific details. Often it's not a single incident but rather a broader picture. What is REALLY bothering you the most. Decide and act on a change. Then I want you to think 5 things each day that was good. At the same time, evaluate your change and keep making progress. "Aim for progress, not perfection." (not sure who the author is) I'm targeting both the potential for chemical imbalance and the potential of life imbalance here. Until you know exactly what it is, take actions for both.
I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. Good thoughts are definitely being sent your way & if you need to vent, etc., please feel free to PM me. Other than my parents & boyfriend, I don't have anyone to confide in either in this world. I'm sending you a PM.
I was in a deep depression last week, but under doctor's care. He told me I would get better each day, and I have. (A change in meds.) I think you need to contact a medical person for any chemical needs your body might have.
Please don't feel all alone. Everyone here will support you until you can find a support system in "real" life. Reach out. Get help. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Hey VanNewbie...remember we used to pm awhile back? I have been on another chatroom that may help you and others to vent. ..Its a support chatroom related to anxiety etc. It had been a great resource because you can chat live by just typing and people rec books etc....I am usually adding humor Or other skills I have been learning when I can and it helps people in panic relax they have thanked me. Please PM me. Today. I will reply.
