I teach the Pre-K class at our church preschool. It is 4 and 5 year-olds who are getting prepared for kindergarten. We are open year round. I have a fun, but structured class with learning centers. The children need to be able to work independently or in groups. We require that all children in our center are toilet trained by the time they enter the 3 year-old class. You may agree or disagree, but that is our center policy. I have a new student that has just started in my class. He will be in my class this fall and they wanted to start this summer to get acclimated. The director and I failed to ask if he was toilet trained. It is in our handbook which the parents read. (or said they did) When we realized he was not, we met with the parents and told them we would try him in my class for the summer and see how he did. He was born premature, so I am taking that in to account. However, he is on a 2 year -old level. He does not understand one and two step directions and can not work independently. He does not understand what is a choice and what is not. Like he can choose any center, but circle time is not a choice. Also, the toilet training is not going well. Partly because I have not done this in many years. My class is older more mature kids. The director and I have talked about what our goals are and of course, toilet training is #1, but if that does not happen we can't just move him to the 3 year-old class because our school policy is they must be toilet trained in that class also. Moving him back to the 2's which is his maturity level seems so far to go. I know when children are developmentally behind it is important to try and keep them with their age group. Suggestions?