When I went to my future location, I had an interview as a director of an after school program. They paid for my plane ticket to come out. Well, after interviewing with them and a couple school I decided that I wanted to stay in the classroom (I love teaching, I could balance teaching and being in a PhD program). Also, I hadn't heard anything from the afterschool program. I accepted a position with another school. Today (over 2 weeks later) I received a VM from the after school program, the person eluded to me having the position. How do I say thanks, but no thanks to the people that paid for my ticket????? I hate telling people no! I almost feel like I owe them something!