A student said to me today....

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  1. Caesar753

    Caesar753 Multitudinous

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    "Here you go, hon," when she was turning in a paper. This was said with a sarcastic, overly sweet tone after I had asked her to go to the deans' office for insubordination, blatant disrespect, and adamant refusal to work.

    My response was, "No. You don't get to call me that. Please leave."

    Ugh. I hate being called hon, honey, sweetie, dear, or any of those things when the person speaking is upset with me. I find it incredibly offensive.
     
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  3. EdEd

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    Wow, I would have found that to be pretty offensive too.
     
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    I call my friends "hon" MAYBE. I would never dream of calling a boss or superior "hon"...and a boss/superior is most definitely what you are to this girl.
    Good for you on your response.
     
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    My friends or superiors can call me "hon" or whatever, but I agree with mb_teacher. That's something you just don't do.
     
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    My mom and my husband call me "hon."

    No one else.
     
  7. Caesar753

    Caesar753 Multitudinous

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    I don't even think it's appropriate for a superior to call me "hon". I think it demeans me as a woman.
     
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    I think it all depends on the tone and a situation. While I can't think of any instance when I was called an endarement by a student, I don't think I'd have a problem with it unless it was done in a disrespectful way.
     
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    Exactly.

    There's a secretary at school who always calls me "sweetie". I don't mind it at all because she's saying it in a heartfelt and kind way, just like my friend or my mom might say it to me. It's when there's a tone attached to it that I don't care for it.
     
  10. Born2beTeacher

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    Absolutely agree- even if the person addressing me was a tad younger, as long as they called me "hon" or "sweetie" with sincerity I'd think nothing of it. But when someone (especially a student) makes such a statement with a tone of sarcasm or disrespect, that's when I would intervene. You did the right thing IMO
     
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    I wonder whether that lesson in respect will register with her in class today (assuming she is welcome in the room again).
     
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    I grew up in the South where many people over the age of thirty will call you "hon" or "sweetie" or "angel." I still didn't like it.

    If you were younger and speaking to an adult it was "ma'am" and "sir." Or Mr./Ms./Mrs. ___. Always.
     

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