I handle all initial referrals for special education at my school. The other day I had a meeting that I am still thinking about. This child is in elementary school, and is far behind grade level. The child obviously has some sort of issue going on. I suspect a mild intellectual disability. When we met with the parents last week, they were so hard on the child. They were calling him lazy, a "mess," and also kept saying how much we as the school personnel were being "played" by their son. This child is super sweet, and really just struggles. The classroom teacher is very strict on all of her students, and the parents asked her to be stricter. My heart hurts for this child. At first I thought it was just a coping strategy for the parents, but now I truly believe that they really think these things about their child. It's the furthest thing from the truth. He tries so hard! The classroom teacher and I both said tons of good things about him, but it's as if they just couldn't hear it. Another odd thing is that these are seemingly awesome parents. They have three kids at our school, and the mom is always volunteering. So, then I thought that maybe they were just embarrassed by their child possibly needing special ed. But, that can't be the case because one of their other children gets served through our program. How would you approach this situation? I really don't want the child to be punished because he is being tested. Sigh. Help!