I have been wanting to write this post for a while. I am not sure if this is something I am just noticing, or if others are noticing it too. Before I explain, please note that I feel like I am very in-tune with human behavior. I can spot a manipulative person from a mile away. My best friend and I used to "people watch" at our local mall as teens, and it is still one of my favorite things to do. That being said, I am not always the best at choosing words to describe what I see. It all makes sense in my head. So, bear with me. I have noticed a disturbing trend of kids using teachers and administrators to essentially prolong their bullying towards other (usually weaker socially) kids. Here's what happens. Johnny is minding his own business, and Bully goes up to him to tease/harass him. Johnny says, "Get the f*** out of my face," and Bully goes to tell the teacher. Johnny is now in trouble for cursing in the lunchroom. Johnny has a meeting with the principal, ISS, gets in trouble at home, and the bully is strutting around like a proud rooster. He now knows that he can do it again to someone else. Observing teacher tells principal/other teacher that Bully was messing with Johnny, and she couldn't get over to the table fast enough to stop it. Everyone says that Johnny didn't handle it like he should have. There are policies and procedures that he broke. Well, what would you do if someone was harassing you at the local park? Would you be nice about telling them to back off? This happens so much I can't even tell you. KIDS (especially those being bullied) AREN'T ALWAYS GOING TO TELL THE TEACHER! THINGS HAVE TO BE INVESTIGATED!! PEOPLE HAVE TO USE THEIR BRAINS!!! I am in my mid 30's. When I was in school situations were solved with common sense. If Bully went and told the teacher that Johnny cursed at him, teacher would have asked, "What did YOU do to HIM?" The difference, in my opinion, is the "no tolerance" mess. It is completely possible that this is just happening in my school due to administration/social issues that are deep rooted. Is this something you have noticed? If so, I am afraid we are making the problem of bullying worse. The poor kids being bullied have no one to talk to, and feel like no one believes them.