Originally Posted by Ms. I
I would also definitely try to retract those recommendations for that student, if I could. He obviously didn't appreciate it one bit. I just hope that when it's time for you or whoever to talk to/reprimand him, hopefully he won't be a smart ass about it & say, "Well, you are gay. I didn't say any derogatory term a lot of people use for gay people."
I thought of that. There's no way he can pull that on me I don't think.
First of all, he doesn't know that. That would be an assumption on his part, and secondly, he's a middle schooler, I know **** well that he meant it in a derogatory manner, and thirdly, it's not his business to be sharing the personal lives of his teachers in this manner, and it didn't follow the rules of the assignment.
I'm going to go with guilt tactics. Basically guilt him on the fact that I provided these recommendations, the fact that he is not fit for student council if he uses a description of someone as a derogatory slang term, and he's probably going to lie about it off the bat, so I'll tell him that lying to my face is an insult to me when I could have just passed this off as bad choices made through peer pressure, and I'm going to require him to write me a written apology. Basically tell him he's going to need me to rebuild my trust in him yadda yadda if he wants to me to recommend him for positions of leadership in the future.
I don't care so much as he used the term "gay" in a derogatory way (I mean, 'STOP THE HEADLINES, Middle schooler calls someone 'gay'!') than that he specifically came to me for recommendations to leadership type positions and he expects that he can insult others for their culture (he's done this before--this was why he wasn't allowed in student leadership this quarter) or sexual orientation while being someone that students look to for the culture and climate of the school.